Jimothy the Raccoon, Massage Magic & The Pettiest Date Invoice Ever

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0:44 I've seen more. I have seen. Seen some of these things over the last year that I just just jaw dropping. I think jaw dropping is a there's a perfect description of it. So we will touch on that today and we will also run our fingers across the delicate grass of FIFA's turf war that is happening in New Jersey. I never thought I'd say the sentence, there's a turf war in New Jersey. But it's twenty twenty six and anything as possible. So if you love what you hear here today inside the Treehouse, share it with a friend, hit the share button from your favorite listening platform, send it to a friend, a pal, a loved one, share it on social media, and together, let's grow the Treehouse show.

1:37 Let's also entertaining about that story is and You really have to be a certain age now to get this reference. But it'll be the first time they're digging up a football stadium the turf in New Jersey or New York and they're not looking for Jimmy Hoffa. But imagine if they found him in Oh yeah, imagine their surprise. Oh god. All right, we have to start with mythical creatures. There's a pair of them that we need to discuss. One you may not be aware of, the other you might. So you've heard of hot Girls summer, right, Yeah, we are now in the middle of Jimothy Summer. This is my new obsession from last week all through the weekend up to today. I am obsessed with the short spine syndrome raccoon from Seattle, nicknamed Jimothy. I have seen so many deformed raccoon videos over the last handful of days.

2:49 And you know what, my life is better for it. And I think a lot of people feel the same. And this year has started out very interesting when it comes to weird animal stories. We had punched the monkey as a viral sensation, the little monkey in Japan. Oh that was that was making friends. Well he got orphaned and you know, yeah, that that was That was easy Pickens. It really was. That was that was really easy Pickens. He's carrying around his little his little monkey plush toy that he hunts when he's sad that they. Gave him because no one would hug him and he needed something. I mean, if you're a zoo and you have an orphan baby, that's really cute, that's social media gold. That is that is market take advantage. You're gonna sell some tickets. Baby. Uh So, yeah, punch the Monkey wasn't was viral sensation earlier this year, and now for this summer we get Jimothy.

3:41 So I have. I love how we're not real quick. I love how we're not even five minutes in and you're already like burying your face in your hands like the camp. I just, uh no, it's not that. It's because when this story first started out, I want to say, late last week, it was the clickbait of oh my gosh, they found this mystery creature. I took one look at the video and was like, that's a deformed raccoon. Yeah, I'm right there with you. When I first saw like the little like the headline saying like, oh what is this chup of cabra chup of cabra spotted in Seattle, and like, well, I'm gonna be in Seattle soon, so I'd like to see this. And I look at it same as you. I'm like, that's not a chup of cabra.

4:28 That's just a half a raccoon. It's a hunchback raccoon. I mean, it's it's quasi coon. Yeah, And then. I started I I'm actually trying to cleanse myself and break away from too much social media and scrolling, so I have not delved into this one. I've seen a few videos, and obviously his paws are all funky, and I saw him like falling off a fence and then getting back up, and obviously obviously someone has adopted him and takes good care of him. It seems like, yeah, So what I have gathered over the last handful of days is so someone got video of this deformed raccoon in the Ballard neighborhood of Seattle, which, by the way, is the exact neighborhood we will be staying in again when we visit Seattle, uh in the very near future.

5:25 So hey, then you go, you go find us a deformed raccoon. That's what we need. I am on a mission, mother, I am there for like five weeks. I am going to go on daily and nightly. Jimothy hunts for fun and and to possibly say, hey, would you like to come live in a treehouse, little fellow. We take good care of you. Tray's in need of a new panty dropper. The position's open. Ri Ip to Daisy. You you you start walking Jimothy up and down? Uh, up and down Limon Avenue. Oh my god, you're gonna need to take cover anyway. So Jimothy, there was a video, initial video someone snagged at this deformed little raccoon in Seattle, and it went viral because everyone was obsessed what is this thing? And then people like us or like, it's raccoon, It's why are you freaking out? It's not a monster.

6:19 And then more layers to this story started to peel away like an adorable onion. After initial video of him goes viral, then some other videos popped up where other people in the neighborhood also had videos of this tiny, deformed raccoon. And at one point where Jimothy was born was in this house on this property next door to somebody who got what I believed to be are the first videos of baby Jimothy, and they were sharing the story about how they watched Jimithy grow up and how his mother and his siblings, because of his deformity, was limited in his mobility. They would help him. They would like pick him up and carry him, throw him on their backs and take him places and keep him from falling off the fence type stuff. And so they shared some of those videos, and of course those just fed right back into the virality of it. And then Jimothy is just in front of me everywhere I go, and again I'm okay with that. It's been a nice bright spot over the last handful of days. But he does suffer from a short spine syndrome. That is the official, you know, diagnosis or whatever. And he's not the only creature that has this. I saw another video I think it was was it a dog that had it as well, and kind of the same thing. It looks the same, it's just different creature, right. So, a rotund raccoon nicknamed

7:51 Jimothy has become an unlikely local celebrity in the Ballard neighborhood of Seattle after videos of him roaming spread across media, which has inspired fan art, memes and plenty of questions about the unusually round creature and apparel. I saw just just two days ago someone selling an AI art generated T shirt of Jimothy. You know what, America baby cash in. It's great because it's not like you got to give Jimothy a cut of any of it. You can't trademarket. You know, an animal, you just run with it and just start making money. One social media video narrator asked, what am I looking at? Oh God? The confounding critter, spotted in various locations around Ballard, has become recognizable to residents because of its unusual shape. According to experts, the raccoon has short spine syndrome, described as a non fatal deformity that gives this signature odd look. At least one witness dubbed the animal Jimothy that quickly caught on among social media users. According to Keana Hall, when asked about the origin of the nickname, she said, me and my husband saw him and just like a Jimothy to us. Okay, I'm with you. I think of all the things I was most curious about, who came up with that name.

9:23 Yeah, and you would hope there's a hidden meeting behind it that that is funny or. Deep, not just that's just what we come up with. Yeah. I mean it's like Timothy would be normal, so he's not normal. So I don't know Jimothy. Yeah, Okay. The thing I feel bad for is somewhere out there a kid is being born. Oh, and it's going to be named Jimothy along and he's going to be in the same class with Punch, and the teacher is just going to go, oh my god, here we are. So now the raccoon's appearance obviously fueled jokes online video also highlights the affection many people have developed for Jimothy. Social media users have shared illustrations digital artwork celebrating Jimothy, with posts reading in Jimothy, In Jimothy, we trust and protect Jimothy at all costs and one of my personal favorites, if Jimothy dies, we riot and I'll be right there on the front lines with you. And the thing is, he almost did. So the neighbor I told you about that got like the initial baby photos of him. Huh.

10:37 I guess the property owner or whatever went in and cleared out. The property where Jimothy and his family lived is like some cedar trees. They cleared it out, and as they were clearing it out, and it was in the middle of the day when this equipment came in, So the raccoons and Jimothy's family they had to move in the middle of the day. It's obviously raccoon's daylight, not a typical thing. So this guy that live next to women saw him grow up, lost track of until the videos pop back up. So he's just they just relocated somewhere else in the neighborhood and he's just still running around now. He's a local celebrity. But you know, unfortunately, Jimothy will probably meet an early demise because his ability to escape a predator is very limited.

11:23 It looks like, yeah, what typically would go after a raccoon predator wise. H anything bigger? I mean, I'm sure it's like attle. You've got probably mountain lions. Uh mefed out homeless people might see Jimothy as a decent snack. That's probably his biggest challenge. An eagle. Oh yeah, yeah, bear, I do wonder if a bald eagle's flying over and sees Jimithy AND's like ooh, and then he gets closer and it's like ooh, Jimothy may live to be like a hundred because the predators are like that looks. It's kind of like when I see a funky looking chicken wing, or my wife sees a funky looking chicken wing and she's like here this one jeers.

12:14 She doesn't want a slightly deformed which she's like that. You Unfortunately, I think though, to see Jimothy as a little ball of fat and uh or like a tay yeah. Oh you know what, I'm in the mood for some spicy raccoon nugs. Bam, there it is. Yeah yeah. So on the other side, it may actually be what does it meant? Because he does look like, you know, popcorn raccoon. So I have I've been happily distracted the last handful of days by Jimothy the deformed raccoon, which you know, for being honest, it's a better name than other names that you know, you could have called him tardy you know something, you know more deraged. Tory Corky was high on my list just because of the kid from you know, was It? Life goes on?

13:11 That's why he doesn't have down syndrome. He's just like he's more like a Jerry's Kid type thing, you. Know what, You're right, Yeah, not Jerry from the Treehouse for. Now. For those of you who are too young to to know this, there used to be the Jerry Lewis telethon There's Kids. Was it Spina bitheta or it was something like that, and. Yeah, yes, one of Jerry Lewis's uh benefit again. And that is how you know you really have reached a certain age when you have references that you really know some people just of a certain age aren't gonna get because they they didn't experience the Jerry Lewis telethon, which and it was a telethon, it lasted the entire weekend.

13:55 I mean by the Sunday, Jerry looked absolutely haggard. He looked it's worse than the kids he was raising money for. It's like the next like the next after that telephon's over. The next day the kids start one for him, just to see if they could keep him going for the one that they're going to do the following year. All right, so we're going to go. Now, I'm going to transition from uh my obsession, the mys the mythical creature of Jimothy into what appears to be a mythical creature. In the Brighton area of Michigan, where I am currently staying, there is a man here who is a massage therapist, and according to at least two reviewers, he is a unicorn in the massage community. His name is Lavelle, and I believe Lavelle is doing things to his clients that other massage therapists are not doing. I don't know exactly what that is, but I want you to listen to a couple of these reviews. Okay, so quick backstory. After the road trip from New York to Michigan, you know, like we're a little tied up, you know, our backs are little. So Tara was looking at massage places nearby, what's close, what has good reviews? And Lavelle popped up. Thankfully, she told me about him, as opposed

15:27 to going to see him. First review number one, five stars. Lavelle is hands down the best massage therapist I've ever had. His strokes and techniques are spot on. I was melting with every stroke. The warm towels were a nice touch, too. I feel so relaxed. Review number two from Lily five stars. Lavelle's massage was so good I drove seventeen minutes in the wrong direction on my way home. This man is rocking some bodies in there. She goes on to say, deeply relaxing, professional, and exactly what my body needed. The space was clean, calm, and comfortable. I left feeling completely reset.

16:17 Highly recommend from Lynn. So much I can say about Lavell the massage therapist, I'll start with, I've apparently been under a rock in Brighton, Michigan for the last eleven years. The deep tissue massage by Lavelle today had me so relaxed I could have cried. The man's hands have been touched by God. Only a higher power can yield results like this. UH amazing experience, the best massage I have ever had in my life. Without question, I will be back from Nicole. I have never rebooked with a massage therapist in my life until I met Lavelle. He is truly amazing at his craft and I will be back to see him on repeat. He gives the perfect amount of pressure in the exact right places, and I honestly think I had an out of body experience from Lavelle.

17:21 Literally can't say enough good things from Rachel. I think Lavelle must be magical like a unicorn, because he gave me the best massage of my life. I never write reviews, but I needed to today because my massage was so utterly fantastic. See Levelle. You will not be disappointed. His massage is life changing, so needless, so needless to say. My wife is not allowed to go see Levelle. Why I don't want I don't want someone touching her that good. That's not me. I want her. I look, if she's gonna be disappointed in a massage, I want it to be by me. Oh please.

18:08 If you don't want her being touched as good as you, that rules out a lot of places. Hell McDonald's, you'd be afraid of Ronald Lavelle sounds sounds Why why don't you? Then? Why don't you book a massage with him? Well? You know what, I've actually thought about it? Uh for two reasons. One let me see for myself, because I know a good massage, and number two the first review that I read to you where they said five stars. His strokes and techniques are spot on melting with every stroke. That was from a dude named Eric. So maybe I go first to test the waters that are lavelle, and then if that's really that good, I just keep them to myself. Baby, you go get your own unicorn.

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20:35 and Dirty Laundry, Dallas's own Don Henley is seventy nine today. And I will always say, one of the few times that I say this about our previous experience with the radio show is one of the best interviews Russ ever gave and one of the hardest pre interviews I've ever had to do to tell Don Hill, Hey, he's gonna make fun of you a little bit, and if you're not okay with that, we'll call it off. One of those weird is this real moments that happened on a semi regular basis back in those days.

21:15 And then in an interview, Russ Uh blabbed something about something a company had done that lost a major advertising for the station. Yeah, which any of us would have been fired for. In a heartbeat, like before the end of the show. They'd have been like, get out. Yeah, that company was none too pleased about that. And here's the thing. It wasn't all him. It was a good junk Don Hendley's vault, if I remember right, kind of. It wasn't a back and forth thing with that well. But it was Russ that said the name of the company and that a friend who had worked for him had like faxed him over a copy of the receipt. So oh, that's right. Okay, this is why we need each other for some of these men rebased things because some stuff I don't remember. Well, I don't remember a lot of stuff very well, but some stuff, like certain details are foggy. But I remember the company being pissed off, and I remember Don Henley being in the in the background of it. Anyway, Don Henley seventy nine today. Other birthdays today's actually some pretty interesting ones. Rehyse Efens is fifty nine. He is known for being the gross blonde guy that is Hugh Grant's roommate in Nodding Hill. He's also in the Amazing Spider Man House of the Dragon and Trey and I probably know him best as the kicker in the movie The Replacements, the one who uses cigarette smoke to judge the wind before he gets no.

22:42 I He'll always be a notting Hill guy for me, more than anything else interesting. I look, I don't know if you're on The Replacements bandwagon the way I am. Oh, I hate the movie. Okay, that's right, your opposite man, whatever, you you just don't like fun stuff. The Replacements is a really, really, really fun sports movie. Listen. Because I have recently I have gone back and watched things that I have totally one eighty changed my opinion on. I am going to watch The Replacements again and give it another shot. What was it that you hated about it the first time? I just thought it was stupid. Besides that, I mean, give me more than that trade strokes here. Yeah, I mean it's it's it's kind of a silly movie. It's kind of a silly premise. But things like that have happened where you it felt it.

23:33 Fell at the stupid level of like forty year old Virgin and Elf. For me, it was just over the top too much. I just I don't know why, it just it did not hit with me at all. But I am going to go back, although I you know, I have watched the other two movies since then, and I confirmed that I hate them. But I am going to give the replacements another shot and see if I change my mind. Just let go, just just sit there and just enjoy it for what it is, because I mean, this is a movie that's somewhat based in some realities. You know.

24:14 It's NFL players and owners go on strike, sorry NFL, and then they bring in the scabs to play, and they get this team together, coached by Gene Hackman, the guy that's basically just channeling Tom Landry with the hat and stuff. And you bring in Shane Falco. Look he's look in made up terms. Shane Falco, the quarterback played by of course Keanu Reeves. A name like Shane Falco in books and movies and television is going to be one of two things, legendary sports person like a quarterback, or just an outright love making machine god type in some romance novel. Anyway, And actually I don't know if it was just a pr stunt kind of a thing.

25:08 But the Baltimore Ravens were so impressed by what they saw out of Keanu Reeves doing his quarterback training and everything with the film. They actually invited him to training camp and he's like, damn good. Yeah, this is one of those interesting things. Do you remember how bad the play was during the NFL strike? Oh? Yeah, it was god awful. I mean, oh, it is terrible. That's why I said it's loosely based. Well, I mean, it was just I mean, there were a few players that from the strike that made it into the NFL, but for the most part, god, it was bad. Yeah, and that is why you know, now it'll be forty years next year you've never seen another strike because even everyone knows that will not go over well.

26:04 Yeah, the drop off is going to be too severe. So yeah, I mean, the people in that cast. On the replacements, you've got Gene Hacken who as the coach, Keanu Reeves as the quarterback, Jon Favreau as the unhinged middle linebacker who's also a police officer. Opposite. I don't know the actor's name, but the guy that they got out of prison to play strong safety Yet Orlando Jones playing wide receiver Reese Eifen's the kicker who used the cigarette smoke to judge the wind. I love that movie and I'm proud of it. Other birthdays today. David Spade sixty two, former Saturday Night Live cast member, then of course star of films like Tommy Boy, Joe Dirt, Just Shoot Me and one of me and Trey's personal favorites.

26:47 One of the greatest movies, one of the greatest underrated movies of all time. PCU Oh. He was such a good, sniveling, preppy snot kid in that movie. We got not only also also Real Quick co starring Jon Favreau from The Replacements Jon Favreau. That movie is so good and and it ironically it hits so hard today and it is a shame that they have not figured out the streaming rights on that. Yeah, because there are two movies that when you watch them that are old, like twenty twenty five years old at this point, that when you watch them they feel almost like a documentary type dramatization. One is, of course, Idiocracy.

27:38 Everyone points to that one. The other one, though, is PCU. Oh, And I mean, what what was they were lampooning in an outlandish way. With some of the protests and everything else has come to fruition. It really has. Like in that movie, all the all the different kids are protesting all these different things, all these different causes, and they we're actually having them now. It's great. Danny Glover is eighty today, sadly still still too old for this stuff. Wait, he just announced he has Alzheimer's. Yeah, starred the Lethal Weapon films, of course, also in the Color Purple Angels in the Outfield. Danny Glover eighty today.

28:21 Willem Dafoe four time Oscar nominee. How was he not one one? Willem Dafoe seventy one, one of. In my opinion, one of the under rated actors of our time. And he shouldn't be. It's a tragedy that he's underrated anything. Because look that last Spider Man movie that came out where you had the three Spider Man all in the same movie. Willem Dafoe still stole the shows as the brought back to life Green Goblin. He is so so good. He just plays such a unique He's just so unique in his acting and in his delivery that I there's very few things that I've ever seen him and that I.

29:09 Have not enjoyed. Yeah, some of the ones he's known for the best for his Oscar nominations Platoon. I think this here says he was Oscar nominated for Spider Man The Lighthouse, that was opposite Robert Pattinson. Poor Things. Tara and I watched that a couple of years ago. Loved that movie. Very weird, but love that movie. Actually, No, I think it's just I think on the prep service here it's like he's been nominated for an Oscar four times, but that he's known for some of these in Platoon, wo god, that movie, My God. And one more I'll throw at you. Legendary British actor known for Superman, The Limey Queen of the Desert, Terrence Stamp is eighty eight today Origeneral General Zod at least as far as at least as far as the movie's okay, Terrence stamp eighty eight.

30:12 And that's one of those guys I know, Uh, I know he's been in a lot of things that had a very acclaimed actor, but that General Zod is you know, you could list them on you go General Oh, okay, I mean it's like like Alex Guinnis was was a a knighted actor. I mean he he was fantastic. Yeah, you could lift off, list off a bunch of a bunch of things. Then you go obi wan. Oh okay, got it. Yeah. See that's where like our parents might have looked at us, like really, come on, like all these all these people were known for these things. Now it's obi wan dad. And if I if I read this right, like Alec Ginnis, like you said to play obi wan. Uh.

30:55 George Lucas kind of backed up the truck a little bit to him, is like we need this guy, we need you. He saw it as like a silly space soap opera thingy and he's like, I'll do it. But he also demanded a percentage, I believe, of the box office and he got it. So good play on Sir Alec Guinness's part. I saw something the other day speaking of George Lucas that in Et Spielberg threw in a Yoda figure somewhere in there and in return in I was at the Phantom Menace, I'm not sure one of the big Senate scene there where you have all the different aliens in there that they panned through it and they go, there's an et et species in there.

31:43 I was like, Oh, I saw that the original the first time. The first time I saw the movie was in the theater, and uh, when that scene happens, I just happened to be looking around, and it happened really fast. So it was a little bit of questioning, did I did I just see et in the Galactic Senate? And so when I watched it again, that was one of the things I made sure to look for because I went back to the theater to see it again because I wanted to see the Lightsaber duel again, and also because I wanted to see if I actually did see a tiny et And yeah I did. I love that. Yeah. I mean you talk about just a little but little easter egg right in the middle of.

32:25 There, two brilliant minds who are responsible for some of the greatest entertainment of our generations, basically just screwing with everybody. You do this, I'll do this. Yeah, they're having fun with each other. Huh, And we're all just kind of along for the ride, sitting around watching a movie about star Wars and lightsabers, and all of a sudden, you're like The only thing better would have been if the et in the Galactic Senate was actually eating some. And on.

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33:50 Am I the a hole for not paying the bill? The bill I received from a man after ending things with him after two dates. You know, the idea of being reimbursed for dates is so foreign to me, something I never would have thought of in my single life. But it's it's twenty twenty six, and you know what men are doing things differently? Well, I have seen two different aspects of this, you know. The one thing I've seen is that women expecting a man or sending a man a bill before the dates even happened.

34:33 For reimburbursement for them getting ready for said date. Oh God, which I would be like, okay, yeah, no need to go on this date. Yeah, I hope you can cancel that appointment and get a deposit back because we're not going now. And I don't understand the same. It's to me, this is like into a restaurant, eating a meal and then wanting to send it back because you didn't like it. Yeah. Yeah, the idea. And I've seen some of those as well, where it's you know, guys not getting what they wanted on a date, so they send a Venmo request or a Zell request saying, hey, pay me back for your half of the meal or the evening whatever.

35:22 And then the flip side, women saying like, especially if they got blown off by the date or got no showed, they send a bill and say, hey, you know, I did all this to get ready for this date and you didn't even show up, So send me some cares. No. I mean I've seen it where women are like, no, I fully expect they expect the guy to reimburse them for them getting ready for the date, you know, after they've gone on the date, just that their presence alone merits them getting reimbursed, and these are dates they went on. I would actually maybe have a little bit of empathy for a woman if she spent a bunch of money to get ready for a date and the guy no showed or blew or off. But no, these are these are just they went on the date and literally they started off like here, can you send me this?

36:11 It's like pre date expenses. You. Uh, I think, Look, I have no experience with the financial transaction of dating the way some people are treating it these days. But if you're already introducing this type of stuff before you even gone on your first date, man, that's that's that's just not enjoyable for anybody. Now it's just a business transaction because at this point, uh, you're just kind of telling me that this is not a romantic thing anymore. This is now a transaction, and in as action, I'm going to expect something.

37:04 Well exactly, And it reminds me of this point of especially as you get older at a certain point. Yeah, if you want all that and you want me to cough up money just for you to go on a date, tell me why I'm not better off just going to get an escort and having a guaranteed pleasurable night. And the bill is just one bill, and I know what I'm getting is guaranteed. Yeah, you're asking me to cough up a bunch of money just to start off the night with you, no telling where it's going to end. And chances are if you're hitting me with a bill, it's going in poorly.

37:46 You're probably not going to be nearly as delightful as Delilah. Yeah Jesus. And these are things that people don't think about. And same thing with the guys. It's like, dude, it's such a small well, it's a tiny I'm getting here to say, it's such a tiny person thing to be so butt hurt after a date because she didn't like you or something and it didn't go anywhere that you send a you know, a bill like give me, give me money for half of Petty, and it's petty. I like Petty. At a certain point, I'm all for it, but then it goes too far. Yeah, Okay, So the lady writes this happened two days ago, and I still can't stop thinking about how crazy it is me. Thirty three female met a guy, thirty two male on hinge went On a first date with him, we went to an outdoor market that was happening downtown, lots of shops and vendors, and he asked if I wanted to get anything to eat or drink. I suggested ice cream, but he said too hot out where we live right now, and after ordering mine, he offers to pay without ordering anything for himself. I assumed he was also getting something and then insisted on paying for my own, but he refused. After this, went to a bar forer some Drinksquare ordered a drink, and then he proceeded to order a pepsi. Again, I insisted on paying because my drink was substantially more expensive than his, but he refused.

39:04 One week later, we go on another date, dinner his suggestion to a burger restaurant. After we order, he tells the waitress that he has a coupon for his birthday, so his meal's free. As the meal went on, I knew that I was not going to want to continue seeing him, so I had already decided I would be paying for my own dinner, as I would feel guilty having him pay for me when I was planning on breaking things off. While I was in the bathroom, He flagged the waiter down paid for my meal before I could get back to the table without discussing it first. I didn't feel super comfortable telling him that I didn't want to continue seeing him in person, so I waited until I got home and didn't send him a text telling him I just didn't feel a connection between us and didn't want to continue to see him if I didn't see it going anywhere. He then replies, thanking me for telling him that, and asking me to send him an E transfer for the total amount that he spent on me during our two dates, stating that he is a graduate student and every dollar counts. Am I the a hole if I don't send the money.

39:59 No, absolutely not, because if he insisted on paying. Yeah, first of all, a coupon on a date, come on, man, I mean, if you're out with your buddies, you're by yourself, yeah, go for it. But on a date, especially a first couple of dates. I mean, it's one thing if if it's you've been together for a long time, but in the in the courting stage, don't use a coupon ever, ever, ever, ever. But unless unless it is something that is so important to you like you are just frugal by nature, right, and it's so important to save some money. It's sort of like your test on a date. Be like, I'm gonna throw down this coupon. If she's got a problem with it, then she's not the woman for me.

40:49 It would be one thing if it's like a coupon for a helicopter ride around the city or something like that. But for a burger. Yeah, I'm with you there for the restaurant like that, like if if you if, dude, if you can get a free app coupon at Albernez or something, yeah, throw that down. But not not at like village burger bar. Right, I mean no, If you're going bowling and you have a coupon for buy one game, get one. Free, sure, hang on, honey, I got this, throw down the coupon free shoes. But yeah, for a burger at a restaurant, eh, that's for your birthday?

41:36 Yeah. Oh Now, if you're doing it just to sort of troll on the date or something, okay, that's one thing. But yeah, genuinely saying hey, I spend all this money on you when you insisted on spending it, that's your fault, dude, like, this one's so clear cut. I'm surprised that she went online to ask input from strangers, because this one doesn't seem like you would need a whole lot of input from people you don't know. This one seems like a slam dunk. You are not the able, but the dude certainly is. No, especially if if she went to the bathroom and he flagged down the server and paid him because he clearly wanted to kind of be big time. Yeah, no, that's it's all on you, dude, and you deserve nothing.

42:29 You get nothing. Honestly, that's exactly the same thing that happened to me yesterday. We went to dinner with Tara's dad and his girlfriend and my father in law snuck off to the bathroom and snagged the bill before we could even fight over it. And this is for pizza. Clearly he wanted to pay for it. And you know what, at a certain point, it's not it's like, oh, no, you shouldn't have done that, Let me pay for it. Well, you already paid for it. It's like, oh, he's already done it. There's nothing I could do about it. So at the end of the day, I just kind of tipped my hat to him and say, you know what, well played, good job, you know what? That was something and thank you something. I actually, every once in a while Brandy would be like, hey, let me pay for this. It was nice and I am like, okay, sure, but that's in a relationship. But like I said, first, first couple of dates, you know, especially in this day and age, you know you're buying a lottery ticket and there's a good chance it's not going to get any return, so just eat it and move on.

43:35 That's also the sign of a good date. Eat it and move on. Uh huh, cheese, Actually. That would if there was cheese, eat it and move on would would be the appropriate move a good date. I guess you're gonna eat, eat it and stick around. That is true. Yeah, you might spit it out then move on. All right? For all things Treehouse Treehouse on air dot com And once again, if you loved what you heard here today from your favorite listening platform, share the show, share it, send it to a friend, share it on social media, and together, let's grow the Treehouse show.

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