YouTube Ep 14 | Dear Treehouse | Relationships, PMS, Porn, and Oral Etiquette

0:02 Happy Monday, everybody, and welcome to the fourteenth episode of Dear Treehouse, Thank you. Today we have some interesting, uh interesting submissions. I'll start with something that I found quite interesting because I'd never even thought about this, uh nor had I I really Then after seeing this, I found that it's a thing I just can't even imagine. But am I the asshole for being upset that my husband is making AI porn from and with people we know?

0:43 I recently discovered it depends? Hang on, I'm just saying it depends. I got a couple different ways we can go on this one already, at least for. Me, it says, you know, I recently discovered. Yeah, my husband's been spending a lot more time on his computer and seemed to be a little more secretive about it. And then one day when he was out, I went and. Snooped at his. Computer and through things, and I figured out he has been making AI porn with people friends of ours and other people we know that is involving. Sometimes he's in it, sometimes it's with other people. I feel like that this is a form of cheating, that he's spending this much time obsessed with sex with other people. Am I the asshole for thinking about leaving him for this.

1:34 No, given the extra information you supplied, no first blush. It depends if he's doing it to be silly or to possibly blackmail friends and family and coworkers and bosses. That's a separate issue altogether. But if he's doing it to get off on it, yeah, that's a problem. You're not the ahle. If he's doing it just because it's there's like some type of a prank involved, then it depends on how far he's taking it. Yes, go ahead, Rush, I'm gonna let you. I'm gonna let you.

2:14 So prank porn is okay, blackmail is okay. But if he's doing it to jerk off, that's when you draw the line. I didn't say those things are okay. I'm answering the ladies question about whether or not she's the a hole, she's worried about her relationship, and whether or not he's cheating. I'm simply casting a different light on it with a different perspective. It depends on what his goals are with his homemade AI porn. Well, if he is putting himself and the goal is. Yeah, Based on the additional information, Tray gave yes. It sounds like he's doing it for his own self gratification.

2:57 But again, if he was doing it with the intent to blackmail people, while still wrong ethically and illegal, that she may not have as big of a problem. With that, then you leave her. If she doesn't have a moral or ethical problem with that, then that's when you go, I'm gonna I'm gonna pack my stuff up. Now. Well you would, but you're not in a dark room ignoring everyone creating this stuff. We're talking about the guy and this girl, not you. But if she was okay with. The circumstances, is saying, if she's okay with that, then there's a bigger problem.

3:41 I think no. It sounds to me like two people found each other and they found a deeper level of commitment they didn't know that they shared. Because if he's sitting in a room creating deep fake AI porn in order to blackmail people or financial gain, she doesn't have a problem with that. I think they're in a good relationship with one another. Bad for everybody else. But good for them. You need a new therapist. Why do you Why is this so difficult for you to understand? I'm not saying it's good or that it's right. I'm just saying, if she ultimately doesn't have a problem with what he's doing, then that's their business. Well I'm not saying I'm okay with it.

4:24 But especially being that he is putting himself in in the AI porn with other people, you know, I would think that crosses a line. Oh yeah, now now that we know, like I said, since you supplied the additional information and said he's putting himself in these situations with these people, then yeah, there's a sexual component, there's a self gratification thing and there, and it's it's definitely a big problem. No, she's not the aho, But. If it's just blackmail, it's okay. That's that's that's their situation. That is up to them. That is not my business. We don't agree on much, but I like this right now. Do you guys not understand It's like, it's not me in the relationship. You are not in the relationship. Raj saying she's got a problem, I'm leaving, Well, you wouldn't care if you were in the room doing the AI.

5:15 Stuff and she didn't have a problem. Why would you leave her? You want to feel this one? How do you not get this? I know, Okay, it is not you. It's not you. It's a different person. Uh huh, Okay, it's a different guy. You're a fly on the wall. You're not in the relationship. You're not coming or going or anything. You're just witnessing. Okay. And if the guy is doing something bad, his wife discovers the bad thing, and she realizes she's okay with it, why does he need to leave? Well, then why is it? Then? Why is it bad? If she's okay with that, it's not a bad thing, Okay, but.

5:58 It's it's bad to us. It's a society. It's why he's doing it in secrets. Like you're talking about, she's the problem. I gotta leave. What if you were the one doing the thing? Why would you leave? Well, So and Dan, I understand what you're saying. But at the same time, if she was okay with any of this, I don't think we'd be reading this little Dear treehouse. Probably not, But we're assuming the way she is that it was with the you know, the self gratification component, and now we know that it is. But I'm just saying, what if it had some other twist to it? We don't know how Johnny. I'm assuming she wouldn't be on board with it.

6:39 But. Okay. Next subject, Well, Raj still doesn't get it. I don't how do you not get this? I don't know why that one like two octaves up. I don't know why we had to go to that high pitch of a voice. If if they're okay, if if she's okay with running a crime syndicate, then all's happy. Phrase it like trageous. If you're okay with felonies? Okay? So what I was too broad by saying if he's doing something bad, she discovers it and is okay with it.

7:26 Yeah, that's the same. They're the They're the Ai, Bonnie and Clyde. All right, next subject, please, My wife and her periods are testing my sanity and I do not know how to talk about it without sounding like a monster. Everyone. I'm writing this from the couch, pretending to scroll while actually bracing myself. I need to fit because I feel like I'm losing my grip on reality once a month. I love my wife, truly, She's smart, caring, and normally very reasonable. But every month, for about a week, it's like the rules of the house change and nobody tells me what they are.

8:07 No, no, tho they don't. And here's the thing. He has come across the situation that a lot of men find themselves in, and that is for a short time each month. That is not your life. Let me finish. It starts with tension I cannot name. Then everything I do is wrong. I ask an innocent question and it turns into a fight. I try to help and it makes things worse. Last month, I folded laundry the wrong way, and somehow that became proof that I never listen and do not care. I spend these days walking carefully, replaying conversations in my head, wondering how a normal comment turned into emotional land mines. If I defend myself, I am insensitive. If I stay quiet, I am distant. There is no correct move.

8:51 I know. I do not understand periods. I know that there is pain, hormones and exhaustion that I will never experience, not dismissing that I'm just exhausted too. I do not want to dread my own home one week a month. I want to be supportive without feeling like I'm slowly disappearing in the process. How do I talk about this without arguing. First of all, he needs to appreciate the fact that he only has to worry about this one week out of the month, because there's some situations where that's just life period. Like it wasn't just like a one week out of the month, that's just your life period. No pun intended. I'm saying that because that's how my dad lived.

9:41 There was no reprieve of three weeks. It was just all hell. So, but there's been medical advancements where you you know, the birth control that they can take will actually eliminate periods. That is possible. The last few people i've you know, I've dated, uh, some were on the birth control that didn't have any uh. So when they did, it was kind of a rare thing. That was, you know, uh, kind of scary because it's not supposed to happen. Uh. And then a couple of them uh super painful uh and awful. And so that's when I was just like, I think I'm gonna book myself out of town. I'm gonna go do a show in Bridgeport.

10:32 That's where you want. That couch that this guy is pretending to Doomscroll on and type into the void looking for help from strangers. That's where at the house once a month should have some injection handles. You just pop out. You also don't want to be goose. Hit the canopy, you know what? Maybe well and it'll go over so well when you go huh, you clearly don't understand your periods. Take this pill and it will make it better. Yeah. No, you're going take your chances with the canopy. Pull them. I love that move right there. That was an old white guy move when you start the sentence with honey, you're fucked either way, not only the word shod, but the tone.

11:24 Did you just honey me? Oh no, I didn't, And I'm moving out now. You're so pretty. I'll see you back on the fourteenth? Uh? Does does the does the original poster do they? Do they mention how old they are in this relationship? You know, it doesn't matter how old he is. Does it mention how old she is? It does not, because if this is if this is perimenopause type situation, then there is no reprieve. Yeah, like, if so, I'm guessing it truly is. It's before that. It's just the once per week and it's the you know, the minsies but yeah, there's there's nothing he can do.

12:09 Yeah, I'm you can. Mean there's things you can I mean heating pads and being a little more uh, you know, accommodating for the situation. I think that applies to that. That might help if he's not tried it. But when you're so far gone that the relationship is in a tatters because you didn't fold the laundry properly, there's really not much you can do because she's already down that dark path. So even if you bring her like a hot heating pad, she'll find something wrong with it. I did have you know, I had an ex that actually that was her thing when she was on her perio, she would actually clean and like that was her. You left her alone, Like she folded the laundry, she did this, she did that, all of that stuff. So I just had to step away. Just as long as I wasn't in her way, I was good.

13:09 Would you sit there and do nothing or did you make it a point to leave the house or look busy, look busy. Walk the dog, go get groceries, do that kind of stuff. But definitelything else. Sit there, Yeah, but definitely not sit there. No, no, no call of duty. No, No, I wouldn't be sitting in front of you today. That's how you become a kill streak. I truly feel bad for this man because that is a horrible, horrible place to be. Maybe start taking notes when when she tells you things, so you remember them.

13:56 And study them. Yeah, and I mean it's it's it's also about being aware, like how painful is it? How you know, like what does she want or need during that time? And provide that and outside of that, if you do all of that stuff and you still get grief, I don't know what to tell you. Yeah, there's nothing at that point you can do other than honey. Actually, I take it back, because obviously you're not going to do that. So if you do some of those sweet things and you try your best to be accommodating and be sensitive to her plight and she is still gutting you over something, then you may have a severe relationship discussion to have and say, look, I while I don't know your pain, I gree your situation.

14:41 It's not an excuse to treat me like shit. The other option is to just go through the route and just trank her. And just let her sleep through the week. I love you, blow dark, yes, I mean it's like you can't go the honey, I love you. I know you're feeling bad. Take this. You can't do that. You just gotta and just right there, drop. Her all right? Wise from the married man, just straight up rambow. If anyone asks you why it is you have a go bag, it's not because of emergencies like an earthquake or a tornado or a hurricane. It's when something happened that you did not expect and you need to disappear quickly and quietly.

15:38 All right, last one, all right, and I'm gonna this one's gonna be hard to get through without laughing. So here we go. Oh good. The title of this is he burped on my clip. She wasn't supposed to say the email. Again, there's a couple of possibilities here. Let me go in. He burped on my clip and then kept going. Not like a little uh oh burp, I mean he full on man burped into my clittorus while going down on me.

16:18 I felt the hot breath on my huha. The scream, I nearly screamed, I'm not gonna lie. I was stunned, stunned into starfish mode. I was instantly a dry water slide. He had to use lube because my sex drive was gone. I wanted to have sex with this man. I really did. I actually looked forward to this sex. I was just so flabbergasted. I still am not even I'm so sorry. Excuse me. I would have taken embarrassment. I would have accepted apologies. We could have laughed about it, but we didn't. Oh god, we didn't. And we fucked and I put on my clothes and I went home and showered. Sorry, but the ick is real and I will not be seeing him again again again.

17:07 Okay, Jesus, at least say excuse me. There's so much to unpack here. First of all, she's still She's still screwed him. This is why men have such a difficult time with women. She's thoroughly disgusted, still has sex with him, and then bolts. It's kind of a mixed signal situation for this guy, Like, if you're truly disgusted by something, you don't finish. The entire process, you stop it. When when when she dried up like a West Texas summer, he should have known right then. I think this is but women I mean, here's the thing. Women love sex as well. I mean, there's a you. I mean, there's a large part of the world that are like sex is just for men. Women, you know, women want to get their rocks off too. So she's like, hey, I'm already here. That was gross, but just finish. Uh and then she's never gonna see him again. But how do you Okay, here's my question. She says it in the in the thing where she's like, he could have just said.

18:11 Excuse me? Can you can you say? Can you just look up and be like, oh, pardon. Well. This is why there are a number of things to unpack from this scenario. Number one, is it possible. That that is somehow a move of his, Like, is it something that he thinks that she might like because maybe he did it on purpose and he's adding his own vibration into the. Act burping for her pleasure. M h, I mean the neut Trojan commercial.

18:58 Again, I'm not saying saying it's something that I would recommend. I'm just trying to put myself in the brain of a guy that would. Actually burp out a vagina. I mean that that would be the move, you know, it happens, and he pops up and goes, hey, I saw that in Cosmo. Yeah you like that? Oh solid? Yeah, throw play somewhere else. That's right, nice dude, I reflect and deny. Oh that's a solid move man. You can't this. This was in Men's Fitness. They said, you guys like this. Hey, hey, hey, I want you to close your eyes, spread your legs. I try something. Uh do you like that?

19:45 I mean, you know, they say, you know, if you're eating it, you know, like make the alphabet with your tongue. Maybe he was doing the same thing with burps. I mean, really, you have to consider so many possibilities here now, Like she doesn't say in the post, how far into him going down on her he burped? Like was it? Does it matter? Yeah? Because if he'd been doing it for like five ten minutes, was he full? Kind of like you're you gotta make room. When you're a golden corral, you belt, you make a little room, and then you go back for more.

20:28 She's not thanksgiving, damn. Look if he throws on a bib, I'm just saying he might be in his happy place and to him a burp might be a compliment. The way that some Asian cultures slurt their suits. Yes, that's true. Yeah, I mean this guy's in India. If you burp after a meal, it's very like to the to the host, it's like, oh, that was a good meal. So how do we Is it possible this guy is Indie? In No, you know it's not a you don't You don't take the carry over from after the Vinderloo belch to the No, this is.

21:11 This wasn't an arranged marriage. This was casual sex and she left. So yeah, but after they finished, yeah, which I applaud her for that, Like she was just like, you know what, I still need to get my rocks off. So it doesn't sound like she did though she said she'd dry it up. I mean he she said that. I think he had to use some lube or something. So she still got what she wanted out of the deal. Impressive. Does she mean that at all, Trey, Like she just had him finish and so they'd be done. Or did she get something out of it other than other than a fun Reddit post. No, I don't think she enjoyed it.

21:54 Uh she said she you know, she had looked forward to it, But I don't think that. Was so he ruined it with the belt, but she still went through and finished the entire session. That's the part that to me makes absolutely no sense. Well, and she's looking at it, you know, very you know, glass half empty person. At least he didn't gag. It's true. It's not like he got down there, took a whiff and passed out and died. Have fun explaining that to the authorities.

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