Feb. 16, 2026

YouTube Ep 11 | Dear Treehouse | Don't Mix The Pink With The Stink

YouTube Ep 11 | Dear Treehouse | Don't Mix The Pink With The Stink

We cover everything from Dr. Ruth and Gimili, Where to not put fingers, and the difference between F Buddies and Friends! 

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It is time to leave your worries outside and laugh

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with us inside the treehouse. I'm Daniel Malley and he

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is Trade Trendholme. Hello Daniel, Hello treefuss. How was your

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Thanksgiving tasty? Thank you very much. I appreciate that we

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only suffered a minor cut, a minor explosion the guess

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cook top. I think that's it. I think all the

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rest of it there was. There was no major hazards.

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You know, we got to eat well and be happy.

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The Cowboys won. Is a good day overall. I'll take it.

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Excellent.

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Yeah, how about you?

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It was it was pleasant, which was an unusual thing

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to say.

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If it was pleasant, that means you didn't have to

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see your mom. So no I did.

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That was yeah. But you know, I did something that

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I don't know why I haven't done this before, but

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I usually go over to her place and cook there,

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which leads to a lot of tension a lot of

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times because I am claustrophobic and in her kitchen and

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she's in a wheelchair, so she would just block the

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entrance to the kitchen and get me quite irritated. So

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this year I cooked everything at my place and just

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took it over there, and lo and behold, it was

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as pleasant as things can be. So no drama, know nothing,

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It was very nice.

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I'm glad to hear it. And I'm also glad that

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you've realized that disabled people get into able bodied people's

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ways more often than we'd like.

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Well, after I don't know, five years of me politely well,

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I wouldn't even say, after a couple of years of

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me politely asking her not to do it, and then

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then after that point realizing she's doing it on purpose. Yeah,

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and literally, I'll just don't make me feel like I'm

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blocked in. And you know, if something caught on fire,

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I have to, you know, hurdle you in the wheelchair

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to get out of here.

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I have to throw you down and jump over you.

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You know. Yeah.

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So what do we have on tap today?

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Well, we have another edition of Deer Treehouse, and this

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is kind of a a Doctor Ruth edition.

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Okay, I never thought Doctor Ruth as a tease would

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frighten me, but here we are.

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Well, you know, for those of us old enough to

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remember doctor Ruth Westeimer, she was the sex doctor and

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she would answer people's questions. So that's kind of where

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we're going to go today.

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Yes, sex doctors of today do not look like she did.

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No, no, you know, tiny German grandmother is how I

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would describe doctor Ruth.

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Yep, absolutely one hund accurate.

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So but you know, looking back, she was ahead of

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her time.

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How so?

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I mean she was saying things that otherwise were very

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just didn't talk about like I I to think how

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the social norms have changed over the last thirty years

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is actually it's kind of fascinating. For instance, you know

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the last show we were talking about, there's doctor Ruth.

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For those that don't know who doctor Ruth west Teim was,

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this is her for the bulk of the twentieth century.

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This is where the twentieth century citizenry got its sex

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and relationship advice. I'm just no realizing how much she

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looks like one of the dwarves, Lord of the reasons.

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I feel like she needs to be carrying around an axe.

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She looks like Gimbley. But she was right, wasn't she.

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I mean she always she always sped out very sage advice.

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Yeah all right, sorry, no, that's Gimley's nana. But no

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it's fast, you know it this total sidebar. But uh

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you know you you were talking about Bird the Birdcage,

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which is one of my all time favorite movies, and

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that was made I think in ninety I want to

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say ninety six, ninety six. But if you pitched that

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same story today, you know, movie studios will be like, yeah,

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what's what, what's the big deal? It's you know, two

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guys living together with a male sirp Yeah, no, okay,

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that happens all the time, you know, oh, a congressman

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and drag. Yeah, sure it happens. Whatever. It wouldn't it

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wouldn't be the story. It's it's fascinating. It's like, I

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don't know if you remember this, but remember the Prodigy.

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They had a song called Smack My Bitch Up.

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Yes, of course they do. I grew up in the

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I love the nineties, so yeah, I know that song

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very well.

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You remember when that music video came out, it was

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quite scandalous, like MTV would only play it at night,

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basically during safe Harbor because basically the whole thing about

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it is it it's a po V of someone on

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a drunken rampage and getting in fights, making out with

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a girl and everything else. And then at the end

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of the video it turns out, oh it's not a guy,

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it's a girl. And that was a big deal now

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you know now that would it wouldn't even raise an eyebrow.

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No, and just fyi, the bird Cage was released in

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ninety six and Smacked My Bitch Up was the following year,

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nineteen ninety seven. Yeah, so for those that don't know,

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the nineties were pretty lived.

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Oh you know, and then ninety eight the president got

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a blowjob in the Oval office, which again, wouldn't we

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love to go back? You know that that was the

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biggest problem in our country simpler times.

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Yeah, I always said during that whole thing. I always

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said during the Lewinsky scandal and Clinton getting the BJ's like,

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at least he's in the office. Yeah, I mean he's

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on the phone. Forgive the pun, but he's on the

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phone with heads of state while getting head he was working.

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There was no golf, There was no ice cream, uh

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midday ice cream treat you know things there there wasn't

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any sort of I mean, the man was working all

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the time, so much even his adultery not even a word,

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but even his adulter were eating happened in you know,

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while at work. Efficient, very and the economy was good,

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America was strong. M So still wrong, still wrong? Yeah.

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So on the Doctor Ruth edition of The Treehouse or

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Dear Treehouse, we'll start with this one titled men who

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intentionally ignore you after sex, this has happened to me.

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If you I'm reading from this girl's point of view, I.

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Wish you hadn't have said that, because I know so

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much better. You saw it, you thought as your As

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you're reading it, you're like, oh, I need to I

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need to disclaim this.

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After twenty five years, I finally figured that one out.

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But it's those moments in between that we forget. That's

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where the gold lies. All right, go ahead.

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So this has happened to me a few times with

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the same person, and I no longer speak to him,

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nor do I want anything to do with him. It's

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long story short. He pretended to like me just to

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get in my pants a few times. Also, though the

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lines were a bit blurred because we did drink when

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we were together, and he had a high tolerance compared

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to me. This is something else I have come to

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terms with eventually. I think this kind of behavior is

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predatory because they can find someone who wants casual nsa sex,

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but they go out of their way to find someone

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who wants something serious only to use them for sex.

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And these men know they don't like you and they

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know you're not the one, yet they still pursue you.

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It makes me feel completely used because he had just

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been honest with me and rejected me. I could have

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dated someone else instead of thinking that he liked me.

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Well, but then you wouldn't have been at his disposal.

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Then you wouldn't have learned this life lesson. Yeah again,

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if it happened one time, Okay, sorry, life lesson. He Yeah,

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he just wanted to get in your pants, and or

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maybe he at one point liked you and then the

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bore he got to know you didn't like you, but

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the sex was good, and so he just you know,

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you became a booty call that I don't think that

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was I don't know if i'd classify that as predatory,

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other than you know, again fool me wants shame on

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you twice shame on me. And but you know it's

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just another gen Z deal of they don't understand just

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the way things happen, and the yeah, and sometimes again

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it's not on purpose. He may have really liked her

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at first but then found her annoying as hell.

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But yeah, I would say, yeah, so this is not

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necessarily it could be predatory behavior, but it's not necessarily

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predatory behavior. This is one of those things where you

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don't really know, and she will probably never completely know

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because this situation had consent. Did he you know, cut

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some corners. Did he take advantage a little bit here

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and there. Yes, but he may not have intended for

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that to be the case, because sometimes guys don't have

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it in their mind like this strategy, this playing Okay,

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she's this, she's into me, but I'm not really into her,

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but I can use that to my advantage. Blah blah

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blah blah blah. Guys aren't usually that cerebral about it.

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It's more along the lines of there's an opportunity here,

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and I'm only thinking with my one thing. Therefore that's

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what's leading me and my motivations and my thinking or

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lack thereof. So it's it's sort of a like I said,

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it's like, it's not necessarily predatory, but there are little

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clues in there where the guy is seeing an opportunity

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for sex.

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Well hang on though, because in Nowhere in this does

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she say she expressed her feelings to him, So he

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may have thought they were just f buddies.

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And you know, I believe the modern term is she

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caught feelings.

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Oh yeah, that's rough. It's hard when you catch feelings,

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it is so And the thing is that this is

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one of those things I'm going to I'm going to

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share a story with you, Trey, about one of my

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earliest relationships, and I feel like it kind of lends

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itself to this situation just a little bit. All Right,

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There was a girl I was dating when I was fifteen. Okay,

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she was also fifteen, so we're all above board here

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that we were both under age, and so there we go.

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I was fifteen, she was fifteen. We started dating. I

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liked her, I didn't love her. I wasn't crazy about her.

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It was fifteen. I was just starting to get into

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my own I had only like, I'm still like a

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year removed from being a fat kid, so I'm still

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kind of enjoying myself a little bit, right, And I

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started dating this girl. I liked her, it was physically

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attracted to her. She seemed to feel the same. And

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then one day after a particularly amorous makeout session. As

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she's leaving, as I gotta tell her, you got to leave,

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My mom's going to be home soon. She turns to

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me at the front door and says, I love you,

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and I said, no, you don't, and then close the up.

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Oh yeah, apparently I was pretty good at fifteen. But

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my point is this, I didn't do anything predatory. She

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didn't do anything predatory. It was just two teenagers doing

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some stuff, and she caught some feelings. As you said,

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the kids say today, I didn't have those same feelings,

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and for whatever reason, in that moment, that's one of

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the few times in my life where I was able

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to actually clearly and concisely state my feelings in return

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by saying no, you don't go away.

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Now. Was it at this point where you realized doctor

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Sung didn't give you the chip for the emotion love chip.

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I am capable of feelings, Trey. I do have love

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in my heart. I just did not have it for her. Yeah, okay, And.

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For all those who were yeah, that's a Star Trek

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next generation reference. Sorry if you don't get it.

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I actually appreciate that. Thank you.

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I know I knew you'd get it.

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But it is a difficult thing. And I think this

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is something that every generation learns. It's just packaged slightly

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differently with the times. And that is sometimes you're going

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to hook up with someone that you shouldn't have because

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you had more feelings for them than they showed to you,

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and that's just an unfortunate rite of passage almost. I mean,

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everyone I know has a story like that, and that

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story goes both ways. Trey, I know that you've had

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a situation where, I'm sure similar to the one I

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just shared, that there was a girl who was way

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more into you and you guys probably hooked up, and

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then there's probably a situation that you are more into

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a girl than she was into you. So you've lived

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both sides, and I think that's just part of being

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a person and being out there, part.

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Of growing up. But also again because you know, again

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it talks about you know, we did drink when we

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were together. This very well could have been a thing

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where he thought they were just f buddies and she

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got feelings and she may never have told the guy,

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you know, or when when she did, it was too late,

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and you know, he was interested in something else. But

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you know, sometimes you gotta, you know, tell people how

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you feel because and you.

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May do it before it's too physical. Yeah, don't assume

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that because he got physical that he understands how you feel.

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That is not the case.

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So all right, next up on dear Treehouse, I had

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intercourse and didn't feel anything.

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I'm sorry, Trey.

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Yeah, so this this young man, it's a twenty year

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old MALEA I thought it was supposed to be warm,

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wet and soft, but I barely felt anything. Is it me?

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My penis is quite rough because I don't use anything

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to masturbate.

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Oh, this is a lot of information. I wish you

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had eased into this, Jesus, because when you because when

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you say the intercourse thing, I was too busy making

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a dumb joke at your expense. And then you said

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this twenty year old male, first time intercourse, didn't feel anything.

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Then this is how evolved my gen X brain is.

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I thought he was on the receiving end of like

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a gay encounter, and I was like, okay, well that

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kind of sucks for him. But then I realized he

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got turned around. He was the penetrator. See, there's a

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lot I had to go through in my own brain,

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a lot of layers to get through before I could

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figure out what exactly is going on? And then what

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was the last part?

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My penis is quite rough because I don't use any

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lubrication to masturbate.

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Well, so he knows that he should have some type

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of barrier or at the very least be a little

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more gentle.

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Bud. I edited some of this part out because he

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details the fact that he strenuously masturbates with no lubrication, which.

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A why wait, you know, why do you hate yourself?

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Yeah?

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And if you rub it raw, you can't do it

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again later.

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So then one of the responders on Reddit said, this

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is what's called the death grip syndrome, which I didn't

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know there was such a thing, but it's basically something

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for guys who masturbate too much and I guess squeezed

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too hard that they can do damage to their penis.

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Okay, look, I didn't realize that this needed to be

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something that needed to be shared among the male community. Okay,

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the older you get, the more you realize self care

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is important. And I don't mean pleasuring yourself. I mean

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self care in general, mentally, physically, emotionally, all of it right,

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and masturbation is something that needs to be included in there.

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About self care, you need to be gentle with yourself.

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You need to respect yourself unless unless you're just like

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rage baiting, you know, be kind to yourself. Similarly, when

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you reach a certain age, you realize it's worth it

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to pay more for softer toilet paper because you and

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your backside are going to be together for the entirety

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of your life. Be kind to your butthole. If you're

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going to be kind to your butthole, you need to

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be kind to the other side. Okay, if you're going

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to get you know, the good soft charming or quilted

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northern on the backside, you need to also be gentle

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on the front side. There's there's a lesson I didn't

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think we were going to have to share today inside

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the treehouse.

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Yeah, I mean one of the things that we were

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not taught when we were kids, that I is an

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advantage that the younger generations have moisturize.

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Yeah, it's also I'm also glad you brought that up, Tray,

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because I don't really think you're supposed to be taught

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these types of things. If you are taught, then then

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the person that taught you usually ends up in jail.

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Uh what, But you have to kind of pick it

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up through context clues or visual like just conversations with friends,

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movie like you pick stuff up that you realized, Oh

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there's there's other you know, options out there, other than

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you know than you're just getting really rough with yourself.

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You know. I admittedly I do not watch as many

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new movies as I did when I was younger. But

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there were all sorts of masturbation jokes in movies and

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TVs shows growing up that you kind of I don't know,

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I guess you just learned that you.

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Know, no, no, Trey, you cling onto them.

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Nice, thank you.

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But it's true. That's how we learned those things. It

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was in like a dumb conversations with our friends, or

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an offhanded remark by your dad or your mom or something.

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And in film and television references and you pick up

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on lotion. What's tell me lotion? I never thought about lotion.

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Just lubrication. It makes a lot of things much better.

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Yes, it does, all right, I feel like we've accomplished

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a lot just now.

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There we have legally, Yeah, if you're younger, always have

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a good thing at lotion.

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For everywhere, all right, yeah, and here and here's the

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other thing. So uh, try to have your own because

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if you're using Mamas or something like that, they'll notice

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that it's noticeably lower in.

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The So all right, next time, next on the up

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guy put same finger from butt to vagina and I'm

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super pissed.

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I don't know if I have the energy for this one.

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I feel spent already.

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Guys, I'm stressed. I was having sexy time the other

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night and the guy used fingers of one hand to

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finger me and the other to put in my butt. Anyways,

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later on, I see he Later on, I see he

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used the finger that was in the butt in my

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vagina and I immediately told him to stop when.

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I realized, yeah, they'll cross contamination.

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Why would he think that was a good idea? Anyway,

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now I'm extremely worried of infection, like a aerobic pagin itis.

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How soon would I feel to test? Has anyone had

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this happened to them before? And what was the outcome

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I had? I didn't get any infections?

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Okay, all right, well, I have a number of thoughts

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on this. Ah for our purposes. Trey inside the treehouse

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especially on these Deer Treehouse episodes on YouTube. Do me

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as solid when when you read the headline, can you

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please tell me as much information about the original poster

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as possible before you read the headline? Is read the headline?

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Just the headline again, guy put same finger from butt

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to vagina. Super pissed.

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Oh okay, so you did save vagina. My bad. A

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lot was happening in just the opening salvo there that

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I didn't not necessarily are we talking about male female

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male male? So that helps to kind of set the

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stage for my brain because I don't know which way

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to go. I don't why. Maybe it's the older school

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thinking about how shocked I need to be and what

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type of approach if I have any relatability to it whatsoever.

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Now I just feel like I'm randbling on this a

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little bit.

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So, well, what do you use for me to discuss

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why you immediately think you know it's possibly gay because

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you're reading it.

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It's already forgive the pun, but it's tainted. There's a

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little bit of there's a little bit of Messenger derangement

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syndrome here. It's also the twenty first century tray. So

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when you read the opening statement as you did.

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Read it again, guy put same finger from butt to vagina.

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Super pissed.

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Right, it's twenty first century, you're reading it and you're

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a guy. But at the same time, if I didn't

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know you, then that could mean well, maybe you're trans

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so maybe you you look like a dude, but then

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you have a badge. See, there's there so many things

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that we need to know about.

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Yeah, or I went from one to the other and

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then caused the sprinkler to go off.

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Look, it's not sexy to keep a bowl of disinfectant

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next to the bed, although it sounds like it might

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be necessary. Yeah, I'll be honest with you, I've never

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really thought about the cross contamination thing a whole lot.

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While in the bedroom, I think you're just so excited

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to be there, you don't think about the fact that

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you need to use a different finger in one hole

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than you did in the other. I mean, I try

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to keep it. I try to keep that mind when

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in the kitchen I'm using tongs for raw chicken versus

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cook chicken. But my head is just in a completely

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different place kitchen versus bedroom.

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Well, I think I'm sure watching porn has made people

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think it's okay. And you know, just as a general rule,

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if something's been in in the in the butt, you

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probably need to wash it off first before it's used again.

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Like, actually wash it off, not porn washed with spit.

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That that's not a disinfectant, right you know, fact it

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makes it worse.

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Yeah, they they even they even make some stuff that

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lubricates in disinfects. So you know.

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That's help That is helpful information right there.

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Yeah, you know, if.

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Yes, spit it out.

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Just remember you know, when when if you wouldn't, if

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you wouldn't put that finger like in your in your

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own mouth, you probably shouldn't put in other places.

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The more you know, Yeah, it's either the more you know,

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star at rainbow over our heads or at skeletor running away.

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Remember it's ten pm. Do you know where your kids are?

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Two in the Pink, one and the stink.

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