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It is time to leave your worries outside and laugh
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with us inside the treehouse. I'm Dan ol Maley along
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with Trey Trentholm and Raj Sharma. Today is Monday, August eighteenth,
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twenty twenty five. So excited to talk to you, Trey
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and find out what happened at your dating event on Thursday.
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Give us the lay of the land. Okay, what type
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of an event was this? Was this like a speed
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dating thing? Is it just to walk in and start
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talking to people or like was there games?
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It was?
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If I had to give it a word, I would
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say mixer.
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Okay.
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They had.
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The rooftop of this place on Greenville rented out. It's
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called Tarazi Toaso. Really nice place, very nice rooftop there
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were And remind you this event it sold out in
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I think four minutes.
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It's amazing, but.
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It was only one hundred and fifty people. The other
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events they've done for the young'ins that they've gone up
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to seven hundred people. The next event they're doing is
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for to hold two thousand.
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Oh my god. Okay, yeah, So the event that you
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went to was for singles aged thirty five and up.
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Correct, And I believe they were shocked that how many
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of the of those there were. And I mean, I
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think the next event thirty five plus they're planning is
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more like an event of for like five hundred.
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Or like which eyes wide shut kind of thing.
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I that's it's interesting because honestly, the event size of
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one hundred and fifty was really good. So the event
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was from seven thirty to nine thirty, shockingly, so thinking
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like it's like everything else kind of in life, It
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started at seven thirty. I got there at eight, which
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party wise, seems like, you know, that was wrong. You
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need to get there at seven thirty because the first
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thing I figured out off out is you know, the
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earlier there, you kind of pick who you want to
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talk to and then everyone. So by eight o'clock a
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lot of people had already kind of matched up and
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are talking to people, and so you're then just waiting
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for other people to come in that you can talk to,
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or you know, people that free up. But but it
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was it was a very nice event. And I think
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the second thing that shocked me was like online dating,
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they say there's like ten guys for every one girl.
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They struggled to get enough guys here that was actually
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how I got a ticket because the event sold out
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so quick. I didn't. I had no idea. And then Abby,
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the girl who founded this the dity trail thing, she posted, Hey,
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I do still need guys thirty five plus and that's
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I center of text. I was like, Yeah, I'm fifty one.
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If that's too old, no worries. She's like, no, you're
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perfect age, And honestly I was kind of fifty one
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I would say was probably the median you know age.
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So that, right, there is a win going to a
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dating event for thirty five and up and you're fifty
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one and you're not the oldest dude in the room.
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That's already a thumbs up. There's at least a little
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bit of success going into it.
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Yeah, so how does it work.
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When you go in?
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So since you said it's like a mixer, so it's
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basically just people show up and then they just kind
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of go around from person to person or group to
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group going like Hi, I'm Trey, I'm fifty one in
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single or whatever.
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How does that work?
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Because if there's no structure to it, like say a
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speed dating thing, then when and you show up late,
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do you then just kind of stand off to the
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side and kind of try to see if you can
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get someone's attention and be kind of like, hi, would
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you mean.
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Like I mean, honestly, And it was just like being
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in a bar. The only difference is you knew everyone
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there was was there because they're on the dating for
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this daity event, you know.
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In that case, that actually is really awesome because when
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you go to a bar, just in general, you're on
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a mission to meet somebody, but other people that are
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at the bar might not be. They might just be
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there hanging out with friends, or they're doing something else,
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just something else entirely, so you're right, at least this
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time you're going up to someone, everyone kind of knows
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what to expect.
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Yeah, But and that that actually one of the other
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things that shocked me is talking to people and overhearing conversations.
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I guess so many, especially the girls, do speed dating
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events because they also said it's the speed dating events
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are normally more girls than guys. But I really I
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envisioned speed dating after kind of overhearing everything and talking,
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you know, kind of like that interaction between Macaulay Culkin
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and John Candy and Uncle Buck, And I.
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Think that's how you should absolutely approach it. You need
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to go do speed dating, and you need to do
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that scene.
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But this is also the sign of the times. When
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you keep saying speed dating, I just imagine like meth
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or coke, like.
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You know, that's speed dating.
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What's uptown?
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This Dallas?
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It can happen.
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They are not mutually exclusive. You can speed date while
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on speed Yeah, it's.
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It's it's it's Dallas. You know they're bathrooms.
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It's practically a public nuisance at that point, or an
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attractive nuisance.
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That's a great event to be a drug dealer at.
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Okay, so you're still single, mm hmm. But it sounds
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like you would do this again.
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Yeah, I would definitely do it again. I will do
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it again. I'm going to do a speed dating event
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just for s and giggles and you know, see, yall
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can enjoy it.
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I think you want to come. I just want to
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come with you.
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You need to go, you need to go, RAJ.
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Yeah, I just want to I just want to watch.
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Uh all right, I think Roger could probably develop a
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whole new comedy routine on your interactions.
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I'm sure.
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You're already big into crowd work as it is roj.
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I mean, what crowd work could there possibly be than
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a speed dating event with Trey.
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I just want to I just want to get the
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parking situations sorted out and then just watch Trey lose
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his patients.
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That's all I want to see. That'll make my night well.
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And maybe that that would be the good thing about
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speed dating for you, Trey, is that there wouldn't be
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the opportunity to necessarily lose your patients unless someone's just
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really awful right off the you know, the top.
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You know.
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It's the funny thing, is I after again? Why I said,
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you know, I should have gotten there right on time,
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because you know, everyone kind of square it off and
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we're talking. So I do understand the advantage of speeddating
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is that everyone has to rotate around.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, because since you showed up thirty minutes late to
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this dating event, all the good ones were taken already.
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Something like that.
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Hm, so you unintentionally put yourself at the nerd table.
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You've got the dayshift people.
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It was a thirty five plus event, but since Trey
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walked in thirty minutes late, he got all the forty
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five's in up.
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Everybody else went to bed.
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Here's the thing, Tray, I know you're a silver fox,
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but if you want to get the gold, you need
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to show up on time.
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Next time, I will absolutely show up on time because
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and I think God bless him thirty five plus I
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think everyone showed up on time, knowing that everyone wanted
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to be in bed by ten o'clock.
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Did anyone stay after the allotted time?
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I left it nine oh five? I don't know.
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I think that's called sweep dating.
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What was the best thing? We're going to move on
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to what I think is possibly the best headline I
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have seen all month. Before we get to that, I
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need to ask one major question though, about your dating
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event that you attended, Trey, What was the best thing
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about it that I went.
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That I actually I got the nerve up to go
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because I was I don't know why, I really I
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got in my own head and I was I was
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to Dan to give you a level of nerves that
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I somehow conjured up the last time. I kind of
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remember feeling this nervous. There were two events, both of
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them you were there and was dancing at Lebert.
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That was the one I had my finger up on, like, okay,
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I know that's one of them. Had with the time
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we danced at Labert for charity, not because we were desperate.
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And then doing that stupid song at the White Trash
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Party or whatever. The one thousand miles so and it
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was nothing to be afraid of. I just I got
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in my own head. But like I said, it was
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I have been a I've been sober for you know,
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nine years as of yesterday.
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I feel like you deserves more than a golf clap,
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but I don't. Yeah, it's it's all a marble right now.
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And even in sobriety, I've been on the working side
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of the bar, which kind of gives you an advantage
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of you're talking to people whatever. So it was really
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the first time in a very long time I had
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been on the customer side of the bar sober. But
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everything was cool. Shockingly, I did not get asked one
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time about I mean, I just I got a topa
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Chico and a glass. I don't know really anyone could
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tell any difference between a drink or not, although they
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served them in different cups now that I think about it.
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But anyways, it was fun. I definitely it gave me
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a relax relax. I I'll be able to not only
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do that again, but then it just probably go out
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more and meet people kind of it's kind of putting
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me back out in the wild.
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So that's awesome. Yeah, it makes sense because now that
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you've done it. That fear has now been removed. The
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mystery is now gone. You know what to expect, and
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that can be one of the hardest things to do. Like,
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my wife is really weird when it comes to stuff
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like that. If we're walking into a new restaurant or
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some new place of any type, she doesn't like to
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be the first person through the door. She wants me
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to do it. I'm self conscious about that because then
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I look like a Chauvener's prick when I do that,
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and I'm worried about people thinking that I'm a jerk
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making her, you know, come in second. That's like, no,
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she's just weird. So it's a similar thing. Now that
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you've gone in, you know what's gonna happen the next time,
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and you'll be more relaxed and maybe you'll walk out
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with a lady next time.
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Yeah.
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Also, I'll definitely get there on time, so uh yeah,
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can of get first first DIBs on people? Because because
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there that's it. There were there were some women there
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that we were smoke shows. I mean they were hot.
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So and it's great for you because you know, if