Dec. 17, 2025

Shake It Off Dan | Wednesday December 17, 2025

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We start off today with a survey that lists the top 20 cities that give to OF, who's watching porn these days, why Trey is optimistic about his relationship, and Dan comes bursting out of the Swifty closet.

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Houston, Dallas, Austin among Texas cities spending big bucks on OnlyFans

Pornhub reveals number of women watching X-rated videos is surging: New report exposes top US searches

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It is time to believe your worries outside and laugh

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with us inside the Treehouse. I'm Dan O'Malley along with

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Trey Trenholm and Raj Sharma coming up today. Good Gift

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or Bad Gift is Trey all of a sudden an optimist.

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But first we will start with an actually interesting to

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good year in review. This time of year is littered

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with year in review lists and stories and research and

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data and blah blah blah blah blah, and most of

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it's dumb and stupid and it sucks. However, when pornhub

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releases some of its year in review, I leaned a

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little bit. I'm curious because while they haven't gone so

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far as doing a wrapped the way Spotify does, they

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are releasing some year in review information. Horn Hub released

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its annual year in Review report revealing women are tuning

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into X rated videos at record rates, which is a

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really good headline because the record rate is it's not

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that astounding, it's it's a new record because it's more

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than it was last year, which was already a record

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and kind of like each subsequent year. It's just like

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you're breaking they're breaking their own record. Overall, it appears

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there is a one and a half percent proportional growth

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in the year twenty twenty five when it comes to

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women consuming adult content online, a one and a half

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percent increase year over a year. So congratulations to the ladies.

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By the way, if you're curious which countries lead the way,

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Philippines sixty four percent proportion of female visitors on porn

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hub to thirty six percent of men. I just think

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that all the other dudes got good VPN access and

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therefore Philippines is not getting the credit. Still surprising number

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sixty four percent in the Philippines fifty six percent, in Colombia,

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Argentina fifty six percent, Mexico forty eight, Chile forty six,

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Ukraine out of nowhere with forty six despite being in

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the middle of a war. Some of the ladies are

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finding time and then back to back to South America

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Peru forty four percent, Brazil thirty eight, the United States

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all the way down at twenty eight percent, which is

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a one percent increase. You're over a year, it's there.

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You have it. The porn hub Urine review. The ladies

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aren't just flicking, they're clicking.

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It seems like a heavy dose of Latin America, very heavy,

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very surprising.

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Is gonna sound crude, and I don't really mean it

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that way. I don't mean it in a mean way.

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It's just a general curiosity. Some of these countries did date.

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Some of the areas of these countries not have internet

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access over the last year or previous years. Maybe that's

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part of the reason for the surge.

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Yeah, or their cellular services imprisoned enough where like they're

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four G, five G whatever that.

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Yeah, And that's why I say it's an honest since

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your question not meaning to be a slam for other

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countries that you know, don't have this certain infrastructure that

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we do in the States when it comes to internet

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phone service and therefore having access to the copious amounts

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of adult content. So maybe they're just going crazy because

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they got a new cell phone.

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It doesn't surprise me. Like the last few relationships I

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was in, it was just kind of brought up, like

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you want to watch you want to watch some porn.

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I'm like, we can do that, uh, And it was

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it was brought up by them. It wasn't even like

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they caught me doing something. It was like, hey, this

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is kind of what I kind of like this, and

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I'm like cool, let's and I'm not here to judge.

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I'm here to help facilitate your joy in any way.

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You know. That is you, Raj a deliverer of joy,

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That's what I like to say. So in those instances that, uh,

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that content served as sort of inspir content, yeah, or

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in some cases maybe aspirational. I meant that both ways.

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Which I was impressed by. I'm like cool. I mean,

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it's out in the open, nobody's hiding anything about, you know,

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like sneaking around trying to do anything stupid like that,

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And it was cool, and I'm like, all right, so

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if we want to we can just do this together.

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That'd be great. Yeah.

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I mean that is probably the great way to introduce

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something to your partner is to be like, Okay, I

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just want to show you something and just want to

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know what you think, because this is something I might

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be into if you are, and as opposed to are

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you into gaping? Like, just asking the question out right

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can be a little jarring, how do you feel about

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my fist?

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Exactly?

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So that might be the gentler way to introduce certain

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things into the bedroom is sort of be a third

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party as opposed to the direct, very blunt question.

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Yeah, and I like it. I find it liberating. You

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know that women are cool enough now in this day

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and age to be like, hey, this is what i'm

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into and that's what I like to watch. So are

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you cool with that? Like, I mean, twenty years ago,

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I didn't see that happening.

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Yeah, it's also interesting because I i'd be wondering is

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there a setup in this? And what I mean is

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if she was to say, oh, you know, I'm kind

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of into this, They're like, okay, well I'm not black,

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so I'm not really sure how.

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Who's that guy in the corner, but he's black, like.

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Red, real dark. I didn't know it was there. But yeah,

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it all has to do with it and how you

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introduce certain things I guess into the relationship. So that's

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look at look at this that I want to show

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you is probably safer a way to go than i'd

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like you to meet Tyrone. Yeah, Reggie.

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And his three brothers and like do I need to

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be here?

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Yes, it's all part of it. I'd need you crying

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at the corner. It pulls it all together.

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No, my dog wasn't really passing gas.

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So yeah, and this and and you're right, Roger, this

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is not a new thing. This has been a year.

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Over a year. More and more women are being more

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open about it, being like, yeah, I'm into some adult stuff.

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And there's even more and more female oriented adult content.

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It used to be back in the day that it

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was all male centered and the women were stars and

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they made lots of money. But they finally jumped into

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the production side of it, a bunch of the female

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stars did, where they then started their own production companies.

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They started directing and producing and taking over the industry,

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which is really theirs should have been theirs in the

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first place, because it's kind of all built around them.

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So now you have more like female content for females. Yeah,

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Tray got excited. Now, keep in mind, just because women

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at a one and a half percent year over year

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growth when it comes to consuming adult content around the

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world doesn't mean the guys have stopped. In fact, it's

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kind of gotten worse in some regard, especially in our

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great state of Texas. The cities of Houston, Dallas, and

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Austin are among Texas cities spending major dollars on only fans. Really, yeah,

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Americans overall spent two point six billion dollars on only

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fans in twenty twenty six, something like fifty sixty seventy five.

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Uh wait, what did I say twenty twenty six, Yes,

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twenty twenty five. Sorry, I'm pulling this from Fox twenty

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six in Houston. Yeah, Americans spent over two point six

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billion dollars on only fans in twenty twenty five. And

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I don't know, fifty sixty seventy million to that is

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just from that Sophie rain girl. Anyway, that number makes

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the United States the top spending country by a significant margin. Interesting, USA,

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Now you know why the bald eagle is scowling.

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Well, a lot of that isn't subscriptions per se. It's

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basically guys hanging for time, like private time with those girls.

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Mm hmm. Yeah. Now so these Americans, Oh, it's interesting, Okay, Yeah, Americans.

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And like I said, two point six billion, But two

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major cities, Houston and Dallas, ranked among the top twenty

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cities globally in total spending on only fans. Dallas spent

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twenty six million dollars, Houston a little bit more at

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thirty two million dollars. Austin was bringing up the rear

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at seventeen and a half million, but all three made

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the top twenty spending cities across North and South America.

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That is interesting, Okay. I thought it was just like

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pictures and am I wrong? Pictures and videos and stuff

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like that that they post. I didn't know you could

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actually like message somebody and like you could get total Yeah.

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I didn't know that was the thing. Okay, good on them.

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Yeah, And that's where and that's where a lot of

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the guys that are spending money on only fans need

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to maybe they don't care, need to realize that a

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lot of the times, the person that they think they're

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chatting with is not the person they're chatting with. A

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lot of times it's another dude. Really, because some of

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these only fans models, they'll be filming and doing their

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content right, they'll be doing ungodly things in front of

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a you know, three or four ring lights. So when

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you're in the middle of doing that, you don't necessarily

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have time to always pop in the chat and chat with,

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you know, Kevin. So that's where you would hire someone

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to do that for you. And a lot of times

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it's it's it's a dude, because dudes know how to

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talk to other dudes.

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Some of them basically, you know, they got guys have

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become their sugar daddies.

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And then it's.

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I'd say a bridged escorting. But that's I mean for

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some of them, that's kind of what it is.

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It's digital escorting.

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None of them turns into real life.

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No, no, no, I know, I'm just saying, but it's

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it's definitely digital escorting, and they can move over into

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the real world.

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But the top why the outer stuff?

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Oh sure?

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Oh interesting, okay, book, I mean, hey, making money? When

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are you making money?

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Yeah? The top twenty cities with the highest total spend

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on only fans here we go at twenty is Helsinki, Finland.

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I just love saying that name. Nineteen is Singapore, eighteen

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is Santiago, Chile, Chiles really into built stuff, seventeen Madrid, Spain,

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sixteen Rome. They put Italy on there just just so

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you don't mistake it. For you know, Texas fifteen is Dallas, fourteen,

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Atlanta thirteen, Bangkok, twelve is Toronto, eleven is Houston, Paris

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at ten, Mexico City at nine, Brisbane Australia or is

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it Brisbane? That's at eight right in front of it

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is a sister city Melbourne seven, Chicago is six, Sydney

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is five. Man Australia's got three in the top ten.

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Dirty Aussies.

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Yeah, four is Milan, three is London, two is Los

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Angeles and number one no surprise here, spending eighty seven

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million dollars on only fans last year New York City.

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All right, go big Apple.

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So there's our year in review for the adult industry. Now,

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now that we've mentioned twenty six million dollars spent by

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residents of Dallas on only fans, let's take a quick

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and be honest survey inside the Treehouse. How much money

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have you spent on adult content this year? Hold up

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your numbers, You guys aren't holding anything up there. You

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go look at that three holes.

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Three holes one.

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Dan, Hey, you're listening to the Treehouse visitors online at

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Treehouse on air dot com.

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you will need to give him a call because Cook

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DFW is an outstanding home services company. But Daniel, what

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We could do anything.

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or perhaps they want to quote on one of those

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back from you?

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or the website Cook dfw dot com. Trey the Optimist, Trey,

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you told me something recently and I'm still processing it.

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So let's let's let's dig into this a little bit.

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I'm I'm I am intrigued anytime you tell me I

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really think this will this one will work. And I

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say that because you've never told me that in regards

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to your new relationship. You said, I really think this

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one might work.

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It definitely has a chance.

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Because all others know.

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This.

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Yeah, yeah, this is Tray the optimist.

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Yeah.

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When I look back on previous relationships, I can pinpoint

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things very early on in the relationship that should have

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let me know this one is not going to work.

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Oh yeah, So.

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I can appreciate that. You'll go back and analyze the

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relationship the way you know an athlete does, like a

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football player does, go back and watch game till and be.

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Like, yeah, there it is all. I had one. I

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had one, like I knew the minute happened. I was like,

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let's just let this run through. When I knew the

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minute happened, I was living in Los Angeles and I

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flew out and I talk about this on stage. I

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flew out to LA and she got in the car

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and I was like, uh, you know, you go you're tired.

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She's like no, I'm fine. I was like, do you

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want to go in? You know you don't want to

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stay in and you want to go out? And then

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I asked her this ago was your flight full? And

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she respond did at takeoff? And I was like, yep,

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this is over, this is this is finished.

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Have you been on many flights where it filled up midway?

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Was the guy sitting next to you like, do you

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think we're over Denver?

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You get a mid air connection and a bunch of

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new people hopped on.

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A direct flight.

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No, they just it's so pretty all.

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Right, Trey, I you've you've absolutely got my attention. What

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is it about this relationship? What happened recently that has

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you thinking that this one has a chance of making it?

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Well, we talked about this, I think it was last

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week of you it's it better to love the same

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things or hate the same things. And she and I

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have have a good We kind of disliked the same things.

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But the other day she she had been to like

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family function and came back and and was I could

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tell something was bothering her. And she said, you know,

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she started with my mother and I go say.

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Less.

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Springing girl a little bit.

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I no one can relate more to just those two words.

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My mother got it.

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I'm surprising. Response was I know mine too, No explanation needed.

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Yeah, Trey is experiencing his own METWO movement, shared trauma

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with mom. Uh so that was it?

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Yeah?

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Just I mean, and I don't mean that's it, Like

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it's not a big one that is a big one

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because that that that shared.

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Well trauma.

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Yeah yeah, it goes a long way.

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I mean there's a level of relatability there that you

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can have with somebody else. That is, you can't fully

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explain it. You just got to be there to know it.

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Well.

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It's hard, especially if someone has a functional and positive

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and good relationship with their parents and they don't understand why, yeah,

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how it could be otherwise.

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Then it makes things difficult.

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And they have to see things firsthand that a lot

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of times you don't really want them to see.

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Yeah. Yeah, it would be very difficult if you were to.

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And I'm sure you've been because you've been in relationships.

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I mean, you're fifty one year old man. I am

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sure that you've had relationships with women who had good

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relationships with their moms and there is a disconnect there

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because she can't relate to you on that level and

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you can't relate to her on that level because it

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is just polar opposites and there's no way without I

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don't I don't know how you find middle ground on

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that scenario because I don't think for someone that has

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a truly positive, loving everything positive relationship with their mama

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is going to understand where you're coming from with yours, Drey, No, No.

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I mean there are things that Thank God my stepmother

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is still around because she's the only person who can

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really validate some of the things I say, because otherwise

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you would think I'm crazy. No one could act like

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no mother could act like that until I go but

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here you go.

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There it is right there there.

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I don't know if I'm at an advantage in this,

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Like my girlfriend gets along famously with her family, like

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they like each other, very strange. And both my parents

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have passed, so I don't have like there's no reference point,

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Like I get to witness that, and I'm like, oh,

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that's kind of cool. So I get to see that,

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but I don't have a reference point anymore because it's

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been so long since my parents both passed away.

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Yeah, and then with you, because you had you had

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a troubled relationship with your mom, but you guys, uh,

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Salvage did and you guys ended up with a great relationship.

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And yeah, and I'm glad for you for that. Uh,

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that is not Trey's journey. And we were watching Tara

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and I were watching the first couple episodes of the

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Taylor Swift documentary that just came out, And in one

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of them, what really really, Trey, I was just singing

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your praise is about being Cray the Optimist and I

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you're gonna dog on me for watching the Taylor Swift

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The End of Virus.

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Yeah, I'm glad he did it before I could.

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Anyway. So one of her dancers is.

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Wisdom.

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One of the segments of the documentary, one of her

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dancers is having this conversation with his mom and he's

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talking about how great she was and he and his

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brother growing up. Uh, his brother went on to play

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defensive line for the Kansas City Chiefs and he's a

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dancer on Taylor Swift's tour. And it's just the relationship

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between him and his mom and it was so sweet

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and loving and he's like, you sacrifice so much and

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I love you and she's like, I love you too, baby,

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and all this it was just great. And and you're

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I'm watching and going like, man, that looks nice.

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Yeah, which which part dan.

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The part about being a dancer on Taylor Swift's tour.

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