March 16, 2026

YouTube Ep 15 | Dear Treehouse | The Christmas Live Show

YouTube Ep 15 | Dear Treehouse | The Christmas Live Show
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It is time to leave your worries outside and laugh

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with us inside the treehouse. I'm Dan, O'Malley and he

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is Trey Trendholm. Trey. What do you have in store

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for us today?

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Oh?

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You know, Daniel, some thought provoking questions regarding relationships and such.

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But first, Happy New Year, Happy New Year to you,

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Thank you.

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How is your How was your New Year's Eve?

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We did not make it to midnight, and I'm okay

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with that. I am at the age now where that's

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totally fine. And it wasn't even playing for us to

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make it to midnight. Our favorite restaurant had had an

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opening for two at five thirty in the afternoon, and

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we said that sounds good. So we did that and

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we were in bed before ten. So it went very

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very well. How about you?

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I made it to midnight, Brandy barely did it. I

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kind of had a nudgeer rope awake. But we had

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a lovely you know. We went to uh went to

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the Stars game. They did not.

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Did not play well, but it was still fun.

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And then I made a big batch of chili and

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uh we were home. I had probably ten thirty and

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uh and thank god because then I saw the videos

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of downtown Dallas. I had forgotten that people just park

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on the interstates and everything to watch the fireworks, which

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in the videos I saw Bravo Dallas that they did

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it one hell of a fireworks show.

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Yeah, they've really gone balls out.

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Well, and the drones that everyone is using now really

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makes it all the more impressive.

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I had this thought the other day. So there was

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this crazy drone show in Las Vegas, coinciding with the

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finale of Stranger Things, and I couldn't help but think,

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just imagine if you could go back in time with

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just the drone show for Stranger Things and put that

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in the skies over a small town in the United

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States circa nineteen eighty five, get people's reactions, Oh my god,

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especially because one of these scenes in the drone show

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is sort of that red void hortal that's opening up

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with vekna coming through, and this is all drones and

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I'm getting chills just thinking about it. But then I'm

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just imagining what that would look like over a typical

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Midwest town in nineteen eighty five, with no knowledge of

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drones or anything. People would lose their goddamn minds.

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Oh it would be I mean podium.

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You know, I remember when when Reagan you know, had

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that hot mic episode, you know, because the presidents used

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to do a weekly radio address. Uh and you know

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I forgot exactly what he said a basis said, you know,

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the Soviets are attacking where it wore something like that,

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and you know people flipped out. Uh So yeah, if

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you put actual something they could see.

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Oh and again.

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Hard to imagine for most people that you're going to

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a time where there was no internet. You had three

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television stations and yeah, people would wig the fuck out.

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Yeah. And and in your home, your standard homes, you

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were lucky if you got a couple of UHF channels.

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Forget cable the other I mean, cable was barely a thing,

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especially if you're in rural uh you know, in the country.

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Uh, your best option.

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Hell, they didn't get cable most places till in the

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two thousands. I mean you either had you had one

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of the in the eighties, you had one of those

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gigantic you know, eight foot satellite dishes that you needed

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a doctor doctorate to you know, figure out how to

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use because you actually had to know you know, the

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different angles and where satellites were and everything else then

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you know direct TV came along.

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Yeah, yeah, those are the white monoliths of the country side.

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Uh.

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And I think you and I know about that all

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too well, because while we mainly grew up in the

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Dallas area, we both spent a good chunks. We both

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spent good chunks of our childhood in rural air. Is

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you Leonard Texas me technically in between two rural towns,

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so like I was in between Bartlesville, Oklahoma and no Wada, Oklahoma.

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So yeah, if you showed that in the sky over over,

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oh god it no, everyone would have freaked out and

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it would have been like I said, it would have.

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It definitely would have been pandemonium, which is part of

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the reason why I wish I could go back in

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time with that drone joke and do it, just to

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see the havoc that it would cause.

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And by the way, I have not you have you

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seen the final episode of Stranger Things?

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Oh yeah, okay, I I have not watched it yet,

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so no spoilers.

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Really, Tara Trey hasn't seen the finale yet A Stranger Things,

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Oh you just got the she just did the face

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so well.

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Brandy has not watched any of them.

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So it's oh, uh.

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Like she had like she's never seen an episode of

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Stranger Things.

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Oh, this is very interesting.

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Yeah, but that's so.

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Are you then going to start over with season one

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with with the new girlfriend and watch all of them

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culminating into a season five and somehow avoid spoilers in

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that time?

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I'm going to.

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Much like you are with Tara. I am not going

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to force her to watch anything. She's always been open.

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She's like, I'll give it a shot. So, after watching

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the last season up to the final episode, which I

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think has been fantastic, I so far one of the

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best final seasons of TV. I think I've seen, I'm gonna,

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you know, let her. I would like to go back

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and actually watch it again because I feel like there's

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a lot of stuff I've forgotten from the first two

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seasons especially. Yeah, so I'm gonna give it a shot

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and see if she's interested.

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And if she is, then yeah, we'll watch it.

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If not, uh, she's a you know, and it's my

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fault I did this that this is.

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I can't even I'll save this for another show, make

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a note of it.

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Yeah, but the Treehouse The Treehouse Show podcast will have

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a meeting you know what from trade.

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We'll save this subject for the regular show because it's

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it's something I will I did on I just almost

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as a joke, and it's now come back to really

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be a pain in my ass.

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Kind of like the pegging jokes for me in twenty

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twenty five.

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You know, this one's almost worse. And I guess there's

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a tease for the for the regular show.

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Oh, I cannot wait. You need to catch that show,

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which will drop on Tuesday. Be sure to find and

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follow the Treehouse Show podcast everywhere you get your podcasts,

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including Spotify, iHeart, and of course Apple podcasts. All right,

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let's jump into the meat of this show today. What

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do you got Trey?

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All right, We're gonna start off with I found a

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very interesting question. Would I be the asshole for refusing

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to meet my ex fiancee who left me at the

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altar even though he's dying and says he needs closure.

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Four years ago, I was supposed to get married.

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I was in my dress ready to walk down the

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aisle when my fiance's best man told me he was gone.

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He got in the car and left without a word,

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and I never heard from him again.

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I was destroyed. I went to.

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Therapy for years to deal with trust issues and humiliation.

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I'd explained everyone why the wedding didn't happen, Return gifts,

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cancel vendors.

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I'll blah blah blah.

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Finally, FIELD have an amazing boyfriend who helped me to

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learn to trust again. I built a new life, and

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Jay became a distant, painful memory. I never wanted to visit.

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Last week, a mutual friend gave Jay my number without

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asking me. He texted me saying he needs to see

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me because he has a lot to explain.

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I ignored it.

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Then he texted again, saying he's been diagnosed with terminal

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cancer and he doesn't have much time left. He said

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he needs to apologize and get closure before he dies.

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He said it would mean everything to him if he

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could have one hour. I said no, told him I

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spent four years healing from what he did. I didn't

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know him anything, So I hope he finds peace, but

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I can't.

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Be a part of that.

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Wished him well and blocked his number. Am I the

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asshole refusing to meet with him even though he might

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die without getting to apologize.

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No, this is an important lesson. We all need to

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learn in our lives, no matter short or long they

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might be, there are consequences to your actions. I applaud

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if genuine. I applaud his ffforts to reconnect, to try

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to make good as much as possible on what he

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did to her those many years ago. But I'm hoping

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that he respects her wishes in that scenario because ball's

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totally in her court there. He has to live or

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die with whatever she decides. And I think it's totally

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fine for what he did to her. I think it's

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totally fine for her to protect her piece that she

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has worked so hard for. She doesn't owe him anything.

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And just because you're dying, that doesn't mean people owe

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you something. I'm going to say that again, not just

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for the living, but for those who are dead that

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are still expecting something in their grave. Just because you're

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dying doesn't mean people owe you shit.

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I would love to take a counterpoint on this one,

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but it's really hard. I mean, you know, there, I listen,

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I did some you know, I've I have learned to

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make peace with that as a recovering alcoholic, and I

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didn't said things that I deeply regret that there you

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know you can't take.

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Back and then and that's just the way it is. Uh.

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And uh, you know I would.

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Have you know, I would have loved to have been

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able to make amends with Russ. I tried, but you know,

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I and I you know, as I said, I wrote

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him a letter and I made my amends. And I said, well,

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I don't regret the overall context of what I said.

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I regret the manner in which I said it.

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It was disrespectful. Yeah, and then to.

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Be to be fair, that's yeah. And and to be

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fair disrespectful is the language he understood best.

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So that's that's why, that's why it cut him so deep,

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if we're being honest. So you did exactly with your situation.

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You did exactly what I would recommend to this dying

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man as he's trying to make amends to his ex.

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She says, no, then, by God, write a letter, give

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it to someone third party that can give it to

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her at some point if they choose that way. His

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feelings are purged onto paper and she may or may

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not ever read those words, but at least he's purged

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them from his body in some way, and it may

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be the only way he gets to it. The other

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option is sit down in front of a microphone and

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record I'm dying podcasts and see if she eventually listens

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to it.

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I mean, and it's a it's an excellent lesson of Also,

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you think about your actions because there are some things

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you cannot take back and try to avoid doing those things.

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Yeah, and that's especially difficult when you're young. You don't

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think about consequences on a large scale. So like when

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you're young, you're aware of consequences. You're aware that certain

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things you do have you know, it's like the for

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every action equal and opposite reaction, right, everything you do

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will have some type of consequence. Could be good, could

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be bad, don't know. But usually when we're young, when

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we consider consequences, it's in a very short timeline. But

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the older we get, we start thinking in longer timelines

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and bigger pictures when it comes to consequences. So when

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you're fifteen, you think, if I cheat on this test,

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it would be bad because this might happen tomorrow. Whereas

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we being middle aged men, we think back on cheating

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on a test when we're fifteen could have implications reaching

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far beyond the next day. It may not be if

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you get caught detention, and that's bad. It could be

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a permanent negative mark on your record that keeps you

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from getting into the college you wanted. Yeah, I mean,

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and that can completely change, you know, trajectory of your

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life type of stuff. That's kind of what I'm getting at.

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So when you're young, you make a dumb decision, you're

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only thinking about in the moment or the very brief future.

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The older you get, you start thinking bigger term and

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you start thinking, you know what, maybe I shouldn't cut

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this corner here because it could have a major effect

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far down the line.

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That is very true.

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I mean, when you're young, you don't think about at

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least I didn't really think about the future.

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You don't think. Hell, you barely think the next day,

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you know what.

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You're right, Yeah, the consequence thing when you're a kid,

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if you even think about it at all, it's very short.

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But you're right, I think, for the most part, and

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I did the same thing. I didn't think about, you know,

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the total consequences. I was like, man, I'm living in

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the moment and I didn't even know what that was

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back then.

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All right, Well, that leads me to this next question,

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and it's kind of uh spin off but thought provoking.

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What's a bitter life lesson you learned from your longest

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or from a failed relationship? All right, say it again,

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what's a bitter life lesson learned from? Like you're from

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a significant relationship that failed?

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Oh man, how much time do we have? I feel

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like I just got thrown into the middle of a

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World War two landmine. Accountability, I think.

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I think.

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I think accountability in any relationship, whether it's you know, romantic, platonic,

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business life, whatever, accountability I think is is something that

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some people take too much of and then others don't

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take enough of. So I think accountability is a big

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part of it. So like in failures of the past,

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I definitely take my fair share of accountability on those things.

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And the good thing about that is is you try

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to learn from it, and then there's the people that

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don't and they just go along thinking like ah, you suck.

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It's like, well, okay, what about you?

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I think the the biggest lesson I think I learned

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is just because you love somebody does not mean you

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are compatible and you can make it work. Like That's

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I think, And I think that's definitely something that.

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Comes with maturing.

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And I say that because I'm sure there are a

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lot of people who learned that early on. One of

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the things about alcoholism is, you know, they say you

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quit mature when you start drinking, And I look back

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at my life, and you know, there are a lot

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of ways when I quit drinking at forty two, I

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acted like I was eighteen. But you know that is Yeah,

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you can love someone to death, but that does not

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mean that you can make it in a relationship, because yeah,

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you can still be really toxic for each other.

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Yeah, that's very true. Uh, And I think I think

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that's a big part of it as well. I think

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I think I think the first step is just being

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able to actually analyze those situations to that degree. That's

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a huge step forward, because that's kind of like I

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was saying with with mine accountability or the lack thereof.

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There are some people that will just chalk it up to, oh,

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he's a turd, and they won't stop to ever you know,

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look in the mirror. Yeah, and there's nothing you can

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do about that. And if they're not going to do it,

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you can't force them.

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Well, I look back, it's something my grandfather said, and

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he wasn't. Yeah, it's not like he.

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Was the first person to ever say this, but it was.

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It was such profound advice, and especially now that you

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know a healthy, happy relationship. But you know, he said,

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if it's if it's hard in the beginning, is that's

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the honeymoon phase. If if it's difficult, then it just

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gets worse. Yeah, and you know that that was.

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True.

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Yeah, along those lines. A good metaphor for that, what

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your grandfather said is is like a roller coaster, right,

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and more specifically the big fun roller coasters of the

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modern era.

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Right.

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They start out super high. You're on the very top,

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and things are good. It's beautiful up there, and you

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know the track below is gonna have twists and turns

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and ups and downs. But if you look at that

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roller coaster, it's it's very rare that those roller coasters

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ever go higher than that starting point.

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Mhmm.

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It's all downhill from there. It has a few you know,

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ticks up here, some loops here, and a twist and

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a turn and some zero G stuff where you think

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your body's about to leave the planet, but then it

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comes crashing back down. And so when you look at it.

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Look at it like the skyline or the profile of

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a roller coaster. You can always tell the beginning of

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it because it's not highest spot. That's a relationship.

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Yeah, Sometimes you get stuck at the top of the

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loop and you're just hanging on for dear.

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Life and hoping the fire department shows up to rescue you,

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typically upside down.

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And finally the little bring a little levity to this,

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I had. This is when I have never I've heard

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some weird things, but I had never heard.

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Of this one. Oh good.

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My husband designates a left and right sock like I

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don't understand this. After watching his socks, he spends an

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hour separating the left and right foot socks and then

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matches them together. If one is missing, he gets upset,

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say he ends up with two left feet. I say

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this is weird and no one does this, and that

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he should just buy new socks and wear them like

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a normal person. He looks at me like I'm crazy.

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He swears this has to be done because socks naturally

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wear the shape of your foot, so if you mix

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them up, you end up with an extra space in

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that sock. Does anyone else do this?

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I can't believe I'm going to say this, but I

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relate to this man on some level. No, and hang on,

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despite this seeming like a very surface level question, there's

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a lot to unpack here. First of all, I kind

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of do this. I do not separate left sock, right

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sock when it comes out of the laundry. I'll just

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I'll match the socks. If it's the same one they

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go together, next one same, they match, go together. I'm

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not doing left right, but when I pull the socks

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out to then wear them, I will look at the

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contour of the sock to see if one is the

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left and one is the right from usage, and if

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I can, I will put them on accordingly. I Am

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not going to spend an hour matching up left right,

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left right as it comes out of the laundry. So

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I'm like fifty percent of this guy.

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How much analysis do do you do?

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I mean, does it have to be obvious or do

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we really lay them out on my bed and really

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look at the contour of the sock.

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So this happened just two days ago, so I'll tell

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you exactly what happened. Pulled the socks out. They're in

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the bunch right, Then I pulled them out of the bunch.

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Then I put them on my thigh and like, okay.

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Then I look at the left one first and see

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is this the left or the right? Can I tell?

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I couldn't tell, So I was like, okay, I'll put

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that one down, let me grab the other one. I

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grabbed the other one, and I was like, that's clearly

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the right one. So I go back to the left

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and I'm looking at it shape and I was like,

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you know, this one could go either way whatever. I know,

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the right one is the right one. This one's just

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gonna go on the left, and it is what it is.

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That's where it stopped for me. And it took all

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of twenty seconds. That's as far as I'll go with that.

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So again, I kind of understand where this guy is

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coming from. I'm not to that extreme, but I get it.

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Now.

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I'd like to point this out because I said, there's

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a lot under the surface here that you're just taking

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it as a Oh, this is a silly sock.

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Man.

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If this is the biggest complaint this woman has about

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her man, she needs to consider herself lucky.

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I have at time believing this would be the biggest

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complaint if he's this, if he's this problematic of socks.

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Well, this is my thing. If this is not the

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biggest problem, then why is she posting about it online?

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Post about the serious stuff? Right If she's posting about

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it online? To me, this is the most serious or

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weirdest thing that she feels like she has to put

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up with. And it's not that bad. It could it

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be a little weird, sure, but you know what, let

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the man be weird about his socks or I tell

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you what, do this anytime someone does something that you

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don't understand why they do it, and you just start

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making wild assumptions or talking about him to your friend

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group or your parents, and you know, making fun of them,

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teasing them, basically ask him why. Maybe he's got a

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reason for it in his mind. It makes sense.

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Tara wrote this, didn't she?

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She may have. I don't know. Is it signed textcal six?

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