Gold Digger or Chivalry? The Boyfriend Who Bought ONE Earring

0:00 Want more Treehouse, check out our YouTube exclusive shows at YouTube dot com slash at Treehouse on air. It is time believe your worries outside and laugh with us inside the Treehouse. I'm Dan Olmalley along with Trey Trenholm. Coming up on today's episode of the tree House Show. We have a very heartfelt goodbye that we need to discuss here inside the Treehouse that will be coming up today, an emotional goodbye inside the Treehouse, a very emotional episode coming up today, plus how much for just one earring?

0:45 All that plus celebrity birthdays coming up Inside the Treehouse Show today. And if you love what you hear today, then do us a favor and share it with a friend. Hit that share button from your favorite listening platform, send it to a friend, a coworker, someone who might be going through a terrible loss could use it. Pick me up and together, let's grow the Treehouse Show. All right, let's jump in now with this to start, am I. Sorry? I had the wrong thing. A guy goes online he needs some relationship advice and he says, my girlfriend expects me to pay for basically everything.

1:26 And I only realized how weird it was after my friend pointed it out. Oh, buddy, he's a twenty six year old guy. His girlfriend is twenty four, and he says, my girlfriend expects me to pay for everything. And I only realized how weird it was after my friend pointed it out. Now, when I went to. Click on this to read the whole context of the story after the headline, it was removed for some reason. I don't know, if by a moderator, deleted by the original poster. I don't know, Trey, am I missing anything that is not currently in the headline, because honestly, I have enough to go on just based on the headline. So there are some There is some nuance in here, and probably the first one is that one of the examples he gives is they were out shopping and she said she found a perfume she really liked, but she goes, oh, I can't afford that, and he went and bought it for anyways, Hey, that's on you, bubba yep. And now he goes through some of the things of yeah, we ordered dinner, I always pay, and she typically orders something more expensive.

2:42 Okay, okay. They were going on a holiday and he said he booked a room and she said, well, what about this room. It's a lot nicer, and obviously it was more expensive. She wanted to stay at a nicer hotel. Now, that does not give any context as to because the dollar in this story wherever they were, it's obviously overseas because they used word petrol. And but he was throwing out numbers about the hotel was like fourteen K. And but she has a job and she makes decent money at fifty five K. Obviously we're not talking about dollars, because if you're making fifty five a month, you can afford whatever the hell you want. Yeah, yet, no kidding.

3:24 And but just it seems sounded like typical stuff, especially the fact that we're older. When we were dating, you know, in my twenties and stuff, men were in generally in general expected to pay for everything. That's just the way it was. That was how we were raised. Yeah, and it's listen. One of the things that was so wonderful with Brandy was I paid for a lot of stuff, but she would go out and we'd be out somewhere doing something. She's like, I got this, You've done enough, which was very cool. I've had relationships that were not like that.

4:06 I think being in our age bracket. I think we have enough experience out there and because of our age where we've experienced both where there's sort of this expectation and it's not always her fault because if she's older and closer to the age, like we are, even a little bit older than us, then we were raised and told you pay, and they were basically told the same thing. It's the guy's thing to pay, right, So that's just kind of nature versus that's what they were told. So that's what they do. Younger though, it very much is, and I think there's also a level of maturity that comes into play, even if it's early on it's expected that he pay. Sometimes a good mature woman will be like, you know what, I think it's time I start paying for some stuff as well. Right on the younger side of things, it's definitely more common to have that sort of initiative to say, let me pay for this, so you're not paying for everything.

5:08 Or we'll split. Well, they split a lot of things, yeah, which that's I mean. I don't even know if they use the term going Dutch anymore, but that that was something in my twenties and thirties and long before that, if you were going Dutch that minute, you know, each person paid for themselves. Which also when you and I were growing up. If she brought that up, then that all automatically means this is no longer a date. Yeah, no, you're just friends at that point. Yeah, that's that. That was like the gen X version of being friend zoned without being told you're now in the friend zone. It's like, I'll pay for this, Like, oh man, listen, I had one relationship now that this is twenty years ago, and at the time we were we had an arrangement and but I was for the most part staying with her. Okay, mm hmm. And she hit me one day, She's like, you don't pay, you know, pay for rent or anything else.

6:09 I pay for everything. Really, I go, I'll tell you what I'll start. I'm more than happy to start paying rent, m but you need to start splitting the bills as far as what we food and going out. And I promise you, and I was right. I go, you're coming out ahead. As we things sit right now, it's far cheaper on you. I go. But if you want to start splitting everything, and I mean all going out, drinks, dinner, all of it. I'm game one month.

6:52 I wouldn't love to take I would love to take part in this experiment. I'm sorry. Yeah, what near. As bad as you thought? M But now this is one of those things. And he goes, well, you know, she occasionally pays for coffee or whatever. Listen, if you don't, if you don't say anything, and especially if she says something like, oh that's too expensive, I can't afford it, and you buy it for anyways, that's on you, man. Yeah, on occasion. And look, look, especially early on in a relationship, these are these things the groundwork gets laid for how how the relationship is going to run, how it's going to operate. Right, So, if you are constantly paying for stuff at the beginning of a relationship, it's going to be difficult to change that down the line.

7:49 It's going to be nearly impossible for you to change it on your own down the line. In order for something like that to change, it's it's got to be it's got to be the other side side idea. And so that's why early on you've got to kind of set some of these unspoken boundaries and ground rules. It's like, Okay, I'm not going to pay for everything, and it's it's like you have to you have to do it very delicately because you don't want to, you know, because early on in a relationship is and all the good stuff is happening, right, everything's happy. You probably don't have any disagreements your sex all the time. I mean, it's just everything's fantastic. So bringing up something, you're like, Okay, I noticed this. If I don't say something or do something about this now, then this could become a problem down the line. So you want to do it delicately because you don't want to ruin the honeymoon phase.

8:44 Right. It's tough, man. Relationships are hard, they are. But I do think in this day and age, I still feel like unless she has just a she makes a lot more. Uh, typically guys are going to pay for more stuff. But I think that's also I think that's the sign of a good, good mate, good person you really want to maybe pursue something more serious with. Is if she says every now and then, hey, And it's also it's kind of a gratitude of Hey, you do a lot. Let me get this one. I have noticed what you do. I acknowledge it. And I appreciate it. And I'm going and I'm now going to, you know, show you a little bit a gesture by paying for this or paying for that. And even then we may put up a little bit of a fight, but deep down we would love for you to pay for stuff on occasion.

9:40 Yeah, it's it's it makes it all worthwhile. If gratitude, it's amazing. Gratitude goes such a long way, you know. And even if you're just faking it, just say. It doesn't matter, just just do it. Just selling. You. You will see the difference. It doesn't take much. It really doesn't. Pick up the tab, you greedy bitch. That's the deep, deep, grimlin side of us coming out. We all got him. He's down there. He doesn't show his head very often, but he's in there.

10:22 And like I said, I said, you know, relationships are hard. But the older I've gotten, the more mature I've gotten Slash. When you get older, you just stop giving a flying f about certain things, right. That's one of the beautiful things about getting older is you stop caring about certain things. You start caring about someone's reaction or what people think about certain things. Right. So I sort of came to terms with this a long time ago, where it's like you play the game of oh, I should wait two days before I call or I have to do this, I'm supposed to do that. You know what, screw it. If you like her, call her, if you want to do this, do it. Say you want to do it, and if she doesn't, then she's not your person. And flip and flip that script as well.

11:13 If you really like him, don't play that game. Don't say, well, I've got a date with somebody else. Don't play those games because if you do, you're kind of setting yourself up for failure and you're just testing a relationship unnecessarily. Just do what you want, do what feels right, and if that person is not on the same page, that is not your person. Unless that feeling is ghosting the person and never telling them why. Yeah, you're sound advice. Dan, Okay, Yeah, there are exceptions. This is not a this is not an across the board type of thing. Please please have the wisdom to understand where there should be exceptions to the rule. Right.

11:56 Uh, But that that's been That was my approach to log That started to be my approach a long time ago, and it made everything a lot simpler. And it's hard. It's a hard thing to change. I've never played the game of oh I'm gonna wait, you know, I need to wait three days or whatever. If I really like someone, I was always gonna be like, hey, I had a great time, let's do it again. And it's liberating, isn't it, Because then you're not sweating over these details. You're not You're not you're not fixated on oh my god, Do I do I say something now? Or is it too soon? Do I call? Or do I text? Especially now with technology, do I email? Do I snap? Whatever that is? You know, there's all these things.

12:37 They hear it do not email? Email is the most impersonal thing. That was actually one of the colder moments with Brandy is you know I had been trying, like again, had no idea what was going on, and uh, she didn't respond to a text, phone call, anything. I got an email from her, just Trey blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Brandy. It's like, Wow, Yeah, that's that's how you do it. Consult That's how you conduct a business transaction, not a relationship. Uh. And and then did you go on LinkedIn and post her resume with a little science says open to work.

13:24 You're right, yeah, the email thing is is pretty cold. But then again, if if that, if if email is your love language, and you know, maybe, then then fine. If that's your deal. Man, your love language, you're you're going to be dating, chat, GPT. You know what to each to each their own. It's yeah, maybe it's safer for everybody that way. I mean, it's just whatever you're going to put an email, you can put in a text. That's true. That's true, but it doesn't feel as cold. It isn't It isn't sent with as much ice hanging from it.

14:08 You know, email unless you just if you want to tell the person to get lost or or just absolutely drive the point home that uh you no longer give a fuck mm hmm. Email. Emails your your vehicle of choice. But if you're not, if you want to display any warmth, any feeling, any emotion, do not email. And if you do email and you really want to drive the stake through the heart of the recipient, see see your X on it. Yeah.

14:48 Now it's interesting because as far as all this, who's supposed to pay for what in relationship, everyone gets raised a little bit differently, but there's still some you know, social norms that have changed over the years. Like you know, splitting things is more and more common these days sometimes, so like in this case, this guy had no idea that it was weird for him to be paying for everything and for his girlfriend not to be paying for really anything, so much so that it was this buddy that had to point it out. On the flip side of that, it was a few weeks ago, I'm at a diner. So I'm sitting at the counter of a diner, right, and I'm hearing the employees talk about stuff because I because Tara and I were right at the register, so we're hearing all their conversations and it was really entertaining the act Trey, you know this, I don't care if you're in a restaurant or an actual bar. All the good action happens at the bar. Oh, absolutely, you get patron drama, employee drama. It's all right there. So at this diner, you have this older woman who I would say would be older gen X, so older than both of us, talking to hardcore gen Z girl, right, and they're talking about another employee who's not there, and how terrible of a relationship she's in. So we're getting all the drama here at this diner. And so you've got the older gen x A saying how he's supposed to pay,

16:21 she shouldn't be paying for anything, and the gen Z girls saying like, look, I'll pay on occasion, like I think it's good to split because it should be even blah blah blah. So it was interesting seeing their different perspectives. Where it really got dark and twisted is the girl they were talking about had the complete opposite relationship where she was the one paying for everything and the guy was a total loser, cheapskate, so much so that in the three years they were together, he only bought her one birthday gift, And to make matters worse, the one birthday gift he got her was one ear ring, not the pair, not the set. One ear ring, and that was there. That was her first birthday with him in that relationship. So they've had she's had two other birthdays since that, and he hasn't He hasn't ever gotten her the other ear ring. That's the only thing he has paid for apparently in this relationship was one ear ring and for three years she's paid for everything.

17:36 I mean, was it a huge diamond stud. No, It's like it was like a CZ type of situation. Uh, I mean, I see. I'm at a point now in life where I know that's wrong and everything else, But at the same time, I'm like, I, dude, how do you do that? Because I I couldn't, but it must be nice. I'd love to be taken care of. I mean, I'd love to see his savings account. Yeah, it's probably overflowing. And You're right, this is what's fascinating by it. This is what's fascinating about it.

18:18 He is. It's like, yes, it is wrong to be that way, to take advantage of someone. On the other hand, he is being so cheap that it's almost commendable. Like I want to study it and find out things about it. I want there to be a podcast about it that I would actually listen to. I want there to be a Netflix documentary on the guy that, in a three year committed relationship has only bought her one ear ring and that's it. I'm fascinated by that. Yeah, I am too. I want to know how you get away with that At a certain I mean, do you start off and you know what's wrong and you're just suppressed seeing the urge to actually do something, and then you just get a customed Is that? Is this the case of a guy growing accustomed to a lifestyle?

19:10 Then he just yeah and yeah? Does he does he have it? Is he is he saving money? Or is he just complete freeloading? And and and and does he have any courses available that I can take online? Yeah? Yeah? And if he is freeloading, I think he's missing a really great opportunity for an income stream of Hey, you can freeload too. Let's get Daniel Cook from COOKDFW Roofing and Restoration in the Treehouse for your free roof inspection and property review called eight three three Cook DFW today to get that scheduled eight three three COOKDFW. The website is cookdfw dot com. Daniel, part of the roofing process is knowing about ventilation and how important that can be to the life of the roof.

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22:10 Let's go back in time to Saturday. Uh, Carrie cook sins I got it, Brandy, your girlfriend left because sweet baby Daisy passed, didn't have Trey didn't have his penty dropper anymore. Silly face and upside down Smiley Trey's response too soon, Carry Cooks response, Sorry. Big hugs, Love you, Carrie.

22:51 Trey ain't there yet, but I appreciate the efforts. All Right, Today is Tuesday, August eleven, twenty twenty six. Let's celebrate today with some birthdays. Actress and a Gun is fifty eight. She's a two time Any two time Emmy winner, best known as Skylar White on Breaking Bad and a Gun fifty eight Today. This is one of those things that this is where I go counter to the mainstream. I did not love Breaking Bad. I think I'm on the record as having said this a number of times.

23:37 I got about halfway through season three. There was an episode where Walt is just doing chores and when he's underneath the sink in the kitchen, I was like, I'm out. It was like it was like it was like I was one of the sharks on Shark Tank. They came in with that episode and I just said, and for this reason, I'm out. Never seen an episode. It just didn't hit me the it hit so many other people. I don't know why. It just I well, part of it is just in the time frame in its heyday was in my drinking days, and I missed a lot of TV at that point. But you had different priorities, Well, you know. If I did watch it, I would remember it. It's just the whole thing.

24:20 Uh, you were living your own version of Breaking Bad. Yeah, but probably the two two shows. I think the two biggest shows of that time were Breaking Bad and uh oh, what's the zombie show? Uh? Walking Dead? Walking Dead. I've never seen an episode of either one. I was all over Walking Dead, and then I wasn't and and then and then I still see promos for the continuation of Walking Dead, and I'm just like, how what serious? Like God, these poor actors. I mean, at least Jeffrey Dean Morgan who played Megan or plays Megan still.

25:00 I mean, he's at least done other stuff. But it's the actress that plays Maggie. Her last name's Cohen. I can't remember her first name, but I mean she's just been all Walking Dead her whole career. Same way with the lady that plays Carol Norman ritis who plays you know, Darryl. At least he's had other things in his career. But man, at a certain point, you're just like, all right, well, I gotta I gotta ride this gravy trained while I can. And I kind of feel bad for him. I mean, I depending on how much money they're making. If they're if they're still I mean, if they're pulling down seven figures for playing the same character every year, I have good on them.

25:42 Hey, it worked for Susan Lucci on on soap operas. Forever Forever. There is something to be said about getting consistent work, and as an actor that's one of the hardest things to come by. So it's always interesting. And this is a very delicate balance that you've seen some actors succeed and some fail, which is you've got a good job, you're on a consistent thing, you got a consistent paycheck, which is already statistically impossible to come by in Hollywood. So do you take the extra gambling step and try to push it? And there's examples, like I said, of it turning out well and turning out bad. Noah Wiley is a good current example of that. He was riding a hell of a wave on Er and decided to punch out and try to jump into film and stuff, and it didn't go the way he thought, and then he was gone for Er and then he had a very just sort of mid career up until recently with the Pit. But then you've got other examples where Matthew McConaughey did Andy. Granted he was already in movies and stuff, but he was so tired he wanted to do something other than all the rom coms. So he basically stopped acting because that was all he was getting. All the offers were for romantic comedies. So I think I saw an interview with him. It was like almost two years before he finally got something else in that he could do.

27:04 He was looking into becoming a professor at ut MM. Then you take someone like Ellen Pompeo playing that's certainly certainly worked out well for her. Yeah, I mean, I think the Gray's Anatomy Gravy Trained is not a bad one. And then they're going into I mean they're twenty twenty eight plus seasons NCIS crew. I mean, they know there's been some ins and outs there, but uh, a few of them have been there for most of the show. So I listening is if you're an actor and you have a solid part in something, it's not like I mean, it's not like you're Batman or William Shatner or you know some of these people that you had a short run on a TV show, but you basically were typecast for the rest of your life. And if you're gonna be typecast and you get a twenty year run, screw them, because you're roll with it. You should be set for life at that point.

28:08 Yeah, because, honest to god, if the Friends cast never did anything since Friends, they they are okay because they're all still making twenty million dollars a year on residuals. The people the low key still the low key ones that have absolutely ridden a gravy train for thirty plus years are the Simpsons, the vote people who do the voice work for the Simpsons. That is a good gig, That's yeah, that's a great gig. Part of I think when I think about this when it comes to like things like The Walking Dead, so uh is Sarah Cohen? I can't remember anyway, some of these actors that have been sort of locked into the Walking Dead series. On one hand, good on them for getting a consistent job and a consistent paying one, which is, as we've stated, very hard to come by. On the flip side, and this is this kind of luck to a certain degree, you're still on Walking Dead and you're looking back at some of the actors that used to be on the show like I don't know John Burnfall and you're like, oh my god, look at what he's doing now. Andrew Lincoln, who was Rick Grimes on Walking Dead, was a bonafide actor. He was in love actually before Walking Dead. He gets cast as Rick Grimes. It's an iconic role as far as television series are concerned. John Burnhal's kind of his right hand supporting guy. They kill Shane Off, which is John Berenthal's character, which needed to happen in the story. It wasn't because John Burnhal was

29:39 about to blow up at least as far as I know, but they write off his character. He dies in the show and then he absolutely blows up into a bonafide movie star. And Andrew Lincoln is back on the set in Georgia doing Walking Dead, going. Like, god damn it. By the way, I saw Spider Man and it was great. I feel like you might you maybe loved it a little more than I did, but I thought it was a fantastic movie. It's funny because months ago we talked about I said Jean Gray is one of those characters. Uh. Spoiler alert everyone, if you haven't seen the movie, sorry.

30:20 Uh, I think at this point everybody knows. But Jane Gray is one of those characters that that never really got her due in the X Men, because she was one of the most powerful characters as far as the Mutants go. Really good introduction with her character, but really good movie if we get the Punisher. The biggest pisser for that movie. And I used this as double andre. Uh you have to wait, ye, I'll ow Marvel movies. There's something at the end after the credits everything else. I really feel like they've made the credits extra long for Spider Man because I had to pee really bad and then I just had to sit there and and really, of all the of all the little Easter eggs you get at the end of the Marvel movies, that was the worst one.

31:10 That was that was that was bad? Yeah, that was the worst thing about the movie. Yeah, it really, Yeah, you're right, it was. This is why it's important when you go into a Marvel movie, if you if you don't go the first day, like the first actual. Day of release, like I went on. So, I mean, Spider Man's been out over a week now, right, So if you don't know some of these things, like you can't expect the rest of the world to operate spoiler free after over a week. We now live in a twenty four hour society, so that's on you. But when Spider Man came out last week, I went on Sunday, okay, so enough time had passed to where I could search how many end credit scenes are there, So I searched that before going to the movie, so I was able to want the credits started. I went to go pee and then came back to see the final end credit and I feel like I got the short end of the of the stick on that and I didn't sit there the whole credits like you did.

32:12 I I had seen on social media what I thought was just part of the end credits, not or the scene at the end of the credits, but no, that was it. And I'm like, really like, and it's bad on Marvel because they have to do better on the rest of them, or else people are going to not start, you know, wait for that little nugget you get at the end. And sometimes with the Marvel movies they would at least divide it up and put some of that in the middle of the credits. Yeah, and I liked the formula that they did with that, and they got away from that formula with the Spider Man, so usually the formula was on the Marvel movies.

33:01 The post credit scenes that they. Would do is the one that had to do with sort of the overall story and trajectory of future films. Came right after the initial cast and director credits, right right so before you got into. The big before the line credits where they actually were still doing the scenes and putting the names out there. They would finish that and then do. The story based end credit scene that you needed, and then if there was one at the very end, that was one that was usually silly and you didn't need it so you could go. The one Avengers is still probably my all time favorite because you know, they're eating schwarma.

33:43 Yeah, it was beautiful. It is. It's still one of the best ones, without a doubt. Ye, and they're not saying a frickin' word and it was perfect. Like, just get back to that more of that, please? Yes, Do you feel restless and anxious, feel like something's missing in your life, Maybe you just need a little more Treehouse in it? Go to patreon dot com slash Treehouse on Air and check out all the bonus features of subscription offers, including bonus shows, behind the scenes content, special subscriber only live shows, and so much more. That's Patreon dot com slash Treehouse on Air. That's pat r eo in dot com slash Treehouse on Air.

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35:18 So Patreon dot com slash Treehouse on Air and get more Treehouse in your life today before we get to a tender and heartfelt goodbye inside the Treehouse, it is very important that we mentioned one other birthday because we were just talking about Spider Man and the Marvel Cinematic Universe and eating swarma at the end of Avengers. Chris Hemsworth is forty three today and he's very pertinent in the conversation we were having as well about getting a role and just running it into the ground righting the way for as long as you can, whether it's what's her name on Walking Dead or you know whoever on a TV shows. Hymnsworth is very much on the record saying I will play Thor for as long as I can.

36:06 He loves I mean, he loves the role. He loves the money. Now, granted, playing Thor is different every couple of years versus the same show week in week out. It's not like he's on NCIS Australia right and. He's making amazing money doing it. But I'm with him. If I get a role like that in the movies where you're making five, ten, fifteen, twenty million dollars per picture, Hell yeah, I will be Thor till I die. Your Thor I mean that's that's one of the iconic roles.

36:47 I mean, it's it's why Patrick Stewart loved being you know, Jean Lupicard. It's there are some roles where you go, yeah, okay, if that's how people you know. And then I mean, he's obviously Professor Savior. I mean, you know X men. I mean he's but yeah, I don't feel sorry for Chris Hemsworth because let's see, he's done. There's four Avengers. There's been I think four Thor movies. Uh, hang on, Thor, Dark World, Love and Thunder Ragnarok. So yeah, for four individual Thors yep.

37:27 And then some some crossover rolls casting Captain America the other but some probably ten movies so far. Yeah, And he's still And because you're doing that, it's movies. You can still do other stuff on the side, like that little film franchise on Netflix called Extraction. Oh that first Extraction is so iffing good. Did I see that? Oh? Buddy, if you have not seen Extraction, oh my god. As soon as we're done with this episode goes, I don't care what you're doing the rest of the day, you go watch Extraction. I feel like I did see it. I think you did. It's the one where he plays in Australian special forces like private contractor mercenary type and he has to protect some Indian kid in India and there's another mercenary that's out to get them, and then something else happens, and then something else happens. He gets shot in the neck on the bridge and falls in the river.

38:21 Oh yeah, okay, I did see it. But it's like the ultimate and hand to hand combat and gunpoorn, especially when he gets his glockjammed and he re racks the slide on his own chest plate. God, that's awesome. I mean, yeah, I mean he did that limitless series on National Geographic and but again talking about good genetics and yeah, you basically everything you do is built around the fact that you're built like a Greek god. It's really on far Norse as it were true. All right, Not to put a full dampener on the Shenanigans here inside the Treehouse, but it is important that we share with you and acknowledge something that is important to us. I'm not going to mince any words here.

39:26 There is a hierarchy to Treehouse show listeners. We love and appreciate every single listener we have, but let's be honest, there's some that rise above others, not because they're better than you or anything like that. It's just because they may have been around longer, we may have had more of a personal relationship with them. And that is absolutely the case of our Robert, who got that name from over two decades ago. He would call into the radio show so often that when we would type in Robert on the call screen and then the comment of whatever he was going to say, Russ would typically ask, is that our Robert versus just some other random Robert that happened to be calling in? Because Russ knew if it was our Robert, it was going to be a good call, and then he was looking forward to it. It got to the point where I started typing it into the screen Our Robert, and we heard the unfortunate news last week that our Robert passed away. I don't take that lightly, especially because I feel like I've been sharing more death announcements on this show in recent years than I really care to, and it seems like they keep stacking up.

40:59 I think, Trey, you and I saw Robert's sister post on social media about Robert passing away, and we had also received an email from her directly, so we saw it on We saw it on social media because we're friends with Robert on social media. We're friends with his sister Shawna on social media, so we saw the post, I believe first, and then I checked the email and saw that she had sent us an email as well about it. So I'll share that with you now, Dan, Trey, and Jerry. This is Robert Powell's, Yes, the Robert you referred to as our Robert sister. I wanted to let you all know that after experiencing declining health, congestive heart failure, kendyan liver failure, and diabetes over the past several months, Robert passed away today. I know he would want you all to know how much he loved you guys and how special you all were to him. He loved the Treehouse Show podcast, as do I, and he would want to make sure you guys knew that. Thank you for all you have done for him over the years. Shauna, Thank you for that, Shauna. And this is what I mean by sometimes listeners rise above other listeners because we

42:31 get a personal relationship with them that we don't always get with everyone. Robert was one of the first listeners of The Russ Martin Show I ever met. When I started on the show in two thousand and two and got brought into screen calls. Dan Lewis, the producer at the time, told me there are certain people that call in a lot and they get, you know, special privileges, and the first one he mentioned was our Robert. I had so many. Great conversations with Robert over the years, both on and off the air. He would come to events, not just RMS show events, but he came to Treehouse events. He was front row at so many of our live shows.

43:14 And I am going to miss him. And he was not only just a wonderfully just a wonderful person, but he always fascinated me because he had such a wide variety of interest in things that interested him. You would see him post, you know, and he had a tendency to go on streaks about posting about things, you know, and he'd get on like a church streak, and he'd post on church, one of the things that he absolutely loved. And I will argue that maybe there has not been a bigger supporter in the DFW Metroplex of women's professional football than Robert Powell was.

43:58 That is absolutely true, and not in a creepy way at all. No, he really advocated it, advocated for it, and uh, I often had to bite my tongue and going dude, but you know, he came to birthday party of mine. He back when I worked at the IVY, would come down there every now and then. He really he was a wonderful person, looked after his family, just a sweet soul. And yeah, I was. I was just I mean, my one word text you when I sent you the screenshot of it was just fuck. I mean, because it's like, we have been surrounded by a lot of death and loss this year and it needs to stop. So knock it off, everybody.

44:57 Yeah, I think it's time and sorry for the pun, but whatever. It's time that we resurrect an old Russ Martin Show rule that Russ put in place years ago when someone died, and that is, you're not allowed to die until we say it's okay, especially now, because we need every listener we can get and if you keep dying, then we don't have anybody. Now. Some joking aside, there have been a number of listeners that have that have passed away over the years, some that we've had more personal relationships than with others. Some we've you know in passing here and there. There have been members of you Know the show and the extended cast of the show that have died. Obviously, Rus himself died, and I keep thinking about this morbid list that I need to make about the people in and around this show, whether it was you Know RMS or the Treehouse version of this show. Some of the other listeners that stand out to me, in addition to our Robert who can now be who now needs to be added to that list.

46:18 One of the first was Gary from the Grove. There was a guy who was the pro wrestling addict and he and Russ would get into shouting matches, both on the phone and in person. One of the great bits in DFW radio history was Gary from the Grove him running through a plate glass sliding door, peeing his pants, all sorts of stuff that happened in and around the show, and we got word that. He had died that That. Was one of the first ones that I remember period as like, oh my god, I'm not going to see or hear that guy ever again. And there's been There's been some others along the way as well. There was one that was real personal to me because he and I struck up just sort of a bond through email and text and stuff and social media. Was a guy named Kevin Rounds. He was hysterical, hysterical listener, loved the show, would comment mostly behind the scenes. He I don't he he would call in on occasion. He wasn't as vocal and seen as Robert or Gary from the Grove, but.

47:25 He was. He was the guy that when I was on the fan, he was still listening to me. And I had talked about how I had met this girl and he found her online and he's like, dude, you totally I'll kicked your coverage. You have like a bionic leg or something. And that was Tara and that was Kevin, and you know, similar thing his sister or his wife saying, oh he passed away. I was like what. And these things have happened over the years. I mean, there's there's many others, but it's just it's just sad. And I just wanted to make sure that we get a moment to say a proper goodbye to one of the all time great Russ Martin Show, Treehouse show listeners in our Robert.

48:15 Very well said, and. Go ahead, Oh I was gonna make it just a joke of it. Oh I've got one too. We didn't have a call in line on the podcast, and everyone would understand. Also called Robert the mouth breather. That's true. He was a big, big mouth breather. And hearing about how he passed away, maybe that should have been a sign. We love you, Robert. We love you, buddy. We're gonna miss you a whole hell of a lot here inside the Treehouse. If there was a listener Hall of Fame, you would be first in line.

49:00 Mount Rushmore, absolutely. We will see you next time, right here inside the Treehouse. What a perfect time for your mic to crap out. Well, I'm all about timing